Having guests RSVP on our wedding website - enclosure card wording?

sarah.shepherd

Ok so we want to have as many guests as possible RSVP on our wedding website but I know that I need to include an enclosure card with directions and the password (yes its password protected that's just how the site sets it up) but I have no clue how to word the enclosure card.

Suggestions please!!! 

We are going to make a small number of RSVP response cards for the guests that we know are not computer able/savvy

ring_pop

How complicated is the process? Is it just a matter of visiting the website, typing in the password, and then clicking a button?

You could do something like:
The favor of a reply is requested by date (or however you wanted to word this line)
www.yourweddingwebsite.com
Password: password

If it's much more complicated than that and will take the equivalent of an IKEA instruction booklet to explain... I'd reconsider this method. Seriously.

PS. You have way too much personal information available in your bio.

ring_pop

Also, it would be a good idea to include a phone number as an alternative way to get in touch with you.

shellydiane820

Yeah, if I was in your bridal party, I'd be upset that my full name is on the internet for the world to see.

pooh8402

DEFINITELY too much information. we have a wedding website too, but as it also has an RSVP option, plus our emails, I do not post it publicly. if I wanted to, I could go and book a hotel in your block, under your name, and show up to your wedding.

shellydiane820

or jump out of your wedding cake dressed like a stripper.

sarah.shepherd

They type in the password and click unlock which is the only button there and then they check the box for wedding (again the only box available to click) and then from the drop down box select the number of guests they are RSVPing for and then it takes you to a new screen and has an info card for the number of guests you selected and it asks for each guests name and meal choice

I'll try and post screen shots - it is really simple

denamarie1

You might as well just say "I'm too cheap to provide pre-paid envelopes for RSVP's so please reply, free for you and me, at www.sarah.shepherd.com". Yes this question warranted my first knot reply....EVER!!!!!

shellydiane820

I like you Dena!

sarah.shepherd

Point take on the info on the website - guess I was being naive when I put the info on there - thanks for the suggestions and heads up.

Any suggestions on wording for an RSVP on our website enclosure card???

pooh8402

and to answer your question: give your guests the choice which method to RSVP by. include the standard RSVP stuff, plus the website on the card. the guest can then choose. it costs the same amount of money as if you'd never had a website at all.

sarah.shepherd

No offence taken Dena.  We know that there will be people who may get the impression that we are cheap b/c we are asking our guests to RSVP on a website and we've discussed that in making our decission to use the website for RSVPing.  Those who are invited to our wedding who get that impression clearly don't know us all that well and if asking them to RSVP on our website is going to make them not come to the wedding or have a bad taste in their mouth that is there problem not ours.

We have thought about including both a please RSVP on the website and a RSVP response card to give the guests a choice but we would prefer that they used the website so we are trying to lead them that direction.

shellydiane820

Just say "we're going green"

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

Why do you think the website is better? Just curious. A lot of people prefer to have a paper trail so they can double-check the physical RSVP cards.

sarah.shepherd

ooo . . . I like the "we're going green" idea a lot . . .

Kati0105

Why do you think the website is better? Just curious. A lot of people prefer to have a paper trail so they can double-check the physical RSVP cards.

Agreed.  Plusalso it might be easy for a guest to accidentally click the wrong food choice, etc.  Despite it being 2010, some people still have technology issues.

pooh8402

I understand the whole preference thing, I prefer that too since it is written down somewhere but not on bits of paper cluttering my kitchen table or something. but you should treat your guests equally. give all of them the choice. some people might be old-fashioned, even if they know how to use a computer, and actually prefer to write it on a card and send it to you. and the people who get the RSVP ensemble, but not the wedding website, they might be insulted that you think they don't know how to use a computer (even if they actually don't know how).

sarah.shepherd

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_having-guests-rsvp-wedding-website-enclosure-card-wording?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:4c25eb89-854e-4aa0-a5c1-bba7ce5c625aPost:674b823e-18ec-4300-9d6c-c9f5aef503fa">Re: Having guests RSVP on our wedding website - enclosure card wording?</a>:
[QUOTE]Why do you think the website is better? Just curious. A lot of people prefer to have a paper trail so they can double-check the physical RSVP cards. Agreed.  Plusalso it might be easy for a guest to accidentally click the wrong food choice, etc.  Despite it being 2010, some people still have technology issues.
Posted by Kati0105[/QUOTE]

With us living about 150-200 miles from the wedding location (and our families that are helping us) having all of the information in a place we can all access is simpler for us and our situation.  Also knowing me and my fiance we would end up with piles of RSVP cards and one would end up getting lost or something for sure.

We are having a buffet so the only food chices will be for the kids meal and a special diet need.

shellydiane820

I was being sarcastic.

In all honesty it is much easier for guests to RSVP on paper.  I had a friend do the online thing, and it didn't work out so well, there were a lot of people who didn't show.

MyNameIsNot

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_having-guests-rsvp-wedding-website-enclosure-card-wording?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:4c25eb89-854e-4aa0-a5c1-bba7ce5c625aPost:42706a82-f920-451d-8e7b-cfe8c162ed12">Re: Having guests RSVP on our wedding website - enclosure card wording?</a>:
[QUOTE]We know that there will be people who may get the impression that we are cheap b/c we are asking our guests to RSVP on a website and we've discussed that in making our decission to use the website for RSVPing.  Those who are invited to our wedding who get that impression clearly don't know us all that well and if asking them to RSVP on our website is going to make them not come to the wedding or have a bad taste in their mouth that is there problem not ours. Posted by sarah.shepherd[/QUOTE]

I'm so sick of grown people walking around with this attitude.  If you don't care enough about them to care what they think of you, they don't belong on your guest list.

sarah.shepherd

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_having-guests-rsvp-wedding-website-enclosure-card-wording?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:4c25eb89-854e-4aa0-a5c1-bba7ce5c625aPost:a08d202c-4293-48ff-bb52-bac0bbf355b7">Re: Having guests RSVP on our wedding website - enclosure card wording?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Having guests RSVP on our wedding website - enclosure card wording? : I'm so sick of grown people walking around with this attitude.  If you don't care enough about them to care what they think of you, they don't belong on your guest list.
Posted by MyNameIsNot[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>My point was that the people we are inviting to our wedding know us well enough that they aren't going to think we're cheap by not sending out RSVP response cards not that we don't care what the people we're inviting to our wedding think.

</div>

Aimeeami

I didn't realize this forum has already been stated... I too am "going green" and am thinking about just having people RSVP via internet... my grandma who lives  in crookston MN who doesn't own a computer will be the only one getting a hard copy/return in the mail RSVP card...everyone else is going to have to go on line. It's going to be so much easier for me to keep track of who is coming or not coming. If you come up with wording for your inter-RSVP... please post it here!! Thanks a ton and good lucK!

sarah.shepherd

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_having-guests-rsvp-wedding-website-enclosure-card-wording?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:4c25eb89-854e-4aa0-a5c1-bba7ce5c625aPost:b23f6c11-1531-48e5-bb4d-6b67108fc5d0">Re: Having guests RSVP on our wedding website - enclosure card wording?</a>:
[QUOTE]I didn't realize this forum has already been stated... I too am "going green" and am thinking about just having people RSVP via internet... my grandma who lives  in crookston MN who doesn't own a computer will be the only one getting a hard copy/return in the mail RSVP card...everyone else is going to have to go on line. It's going to be so much easier for me to keep track of who is coming or not coming. If you come up with wording for your inter-RSVP... please post it here!! Thanks a ton and good lucK!
Posted by Aimeeami[/QUOTE]

<div>I will definitely let you know what we end up doing for an enclosure card!  Glad to hear we're not the only ones who love the idea of having guests RSVP via the internet.  <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-smile.gif" border="0" alt="Smile" title="Smile" /></div>

Aimeeami

.. seriously it's 2010.. and it's not like I'm sending the wedding invite via E-mail.... they will be getting it via snail mail, they will just have to get with the times (which 99% of the people invited are) and RSVP via interent, I dont' see why it's such a big deal...

sarah.shepherd

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_having-guests-rsvp-wedding-website-enclosure-card-wording?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:4c25eb89-854e-4aa0-a5c1-bba7ce5c625aPost:4800c33d-a317-4cda-bfa8-fd74e5a9588c">Re: Having guests RSVP on our wedding website - enclosure card wording?</a>:
[QUOTE].. seriously it's 2010.. and it's not like I'm sending the wedding invite via E-mail.... they will be getting it via snail mail, they will just have to get with the times (which 99% of the people invited are) and RSVP via interent, I dont' see why it's such a big deal...
Posted by Aimeeami[/QUOTE]

<div>AGREED!!!</div>

glam70s

We plan on having everyone RSVP via the internet as well. I've spent the last 2 years at work converting us to a paperless system (I'm in HR), and I hate getting hard copy junk in my mailbox. It has nothing at all to do with "going green", I just hate having pieces of paper lying around. Everyone who knows me would be surprised if I expected them to snail-mail me anything. I've even had several expressions of shock when I've mentioned that we're doing hard copy invitations. And if I had to deal with tiny hard copy RSVP cards, some would get lost, beyond a doubt..

Even my FI's 80+ year old grandparents are very adept with a computer, so I don't plan on sending out a single RSVP card.

That said, I'm marrying a software engineer who's designing the website, and I have complete confidence in his ability to make sure the website functions properly, so I'm not the least bit concerned about guests having difficulty with the site or losing replies.

SarahPLiz

FWIW, I never mail anything. I find it much easier to RSVP electronically than to remember to mail an RSVP card.

We haven't decided what we are doing yet in that area.

JanoBean75

The favor of a reply is requested by [your final date]
www.mysite. com

Question: if you're doing this on your accommodations/directions card, are you going to do separate acc/direction cards for those that you send a hard-copy reply set?

sarah.shepherd

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_having-guests-rsvp-wedding-website-enclosure-card-wording?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:4c25eb89-854e-4aa0-a5c1-bba7ce5c625aPost:71594f94-265a-4869-8189-fd6b574aee35">Re: Having guests RSVP on our wedding website - enclosure card wording?</a>:
[QUOTE]Question: if you're doing this on your accommodations/directions card, are you going to do separate acc/direction cards for those that you send a hard-copy reply set?
Posted by JanoBean75[/QUOTE]

<div>I am printing my own directions, hotels, etc enclosures so for those who are getting the paper RSVP enclosure (they're aren't many) won't have the electronic RSVP info on theirs.</div>

clairissad

I would have an insert that says something like:

"We're going green!
To cut down on paper and postal milage, please use our online RSVP site:
www.yoursite.com
password: abcdefgh

Please call us with any questions at:
555-555-5555"

If someone calls you lost, you can always get the info from them and input it into the site yourself.

sarah.shepherd

ooo I like the "postal milage" phrase . . .