I need help in trying to figure out how to chose bridesmaids without hurting anyone's feelings. I have been in a number of weddings serving as a bridesmaid, and even maid of honor (twice) as well as helping to coordinate. Amongst those friends, some weren't chosen for the other weddings since they werent considered 'responsible' enough. Now that some of my friends who I served as their attendants had children (infants/todller age), I figured that they wouldn't want to be burdened with taking on this responsibility. Any advice?