It's been awhile but I posted before About FSIL acting strange after FI and I started dating. FSIL was a friend who introduced us.
Here is my dilemma. She asked to be in our wedding in front of FI's family several months ago. She laid it on thick and every time I tried to change the subject she started back in on me. So I finally agreed.
Fast forward to now. She won't return any texts, calls, etc to get her budget. She always makes excuses to not hang out with us and even tonight didn't invite us to her birthday party tonite. FI is hurt and has had enough.
It went so far as this past weekend she picked a fight with us over politics and rubbed it in FI's that the banks been calling and blaming my ring for it. We are playing phone tag to consolidate loans Then she went so far as to make a big stink about seeing my ring, calling it "small," then showing a photo of the ring her boyfriend put on layaway that was the same design that his family pointed out to us.
Now circumstances for us have changed and we are considering moving the wedding up. We feel like between her ignoring us, picking fights, and just overall pettiness that she has decided to not be in the wedding. We know its a relationship ender but we are tired of the games with her.
And yes we have tried nonwedding relationship building but our relationship with her is still crumbling.