My cousin and I are close. We grew up together. She just got engaged and I have it from reliable sources that my man will propose in a month. We're both planning our weddings and she asked who my MoH was, and I told her I was thinking of splitting duties between my best friend from high school (I was her MoH, and she would be my Matron of Honor) and my dear friend here at home, who has been with me every step of the way with the man I'm going to marry. (She would be my Maid of Honor.)
I asked my cousin who her MoH is and she said it was me. I was surprised. As little girls we talked about it, but we've lived so far away from each other for so long, seeing each other once a year if we're lucky, I thought for sure she would have chosen one of her school friends.
I balked and started to clumsily explain why I wanted my two friends in the position, and she said I didn't need to explain, it was my wedding. Yet I feel I've slighted her. I don't know what the protocol is here. In one sense I've chosen two women who are deeply involved in my life, who I see often, who know every facet of my relationship with my groom to be...and in another sense I've put two friends before a family member. My guts hurt. Any thoughts?