Escort/Table Cards - how to alphabetize for couples with different last names

kikirst33

Hello ladies,

I am working on my table assignments and the escort/table cards and was realizing that I am not 100% sure on how to alphabatize these for couples with two last names.  

Example 1:

Mrs. Di Four and Mr. Al Or 

The couple above is married but use last names.  Di Four is my cousin. Should the cards always be alphabetized based on the husband's last name? 

Example 2:

Ms. Dee Smith and Ms. Judy Scot

The couple is a committed female couple, the invite was sent as noted above.  Dee Smith is my FI cousin.  Should the card in this case be alphabetized by my FI cousin.  I think that would be the case but wanted your opinions.

Thanks!

baystateapple

1.  I'd do the husband's name first.

2. I'd do the cousin because she's blood family and they're likely to look under her name than her partner's.

brilibby4

We gave each person their own escort card instead of putting couples on one escort card.  It worked out well!

MyUserName1

Unless you have like 500 guests, I'm certain it will take only a few extra seconds for them to look under both names.  I'd do under the lady's name for the first and under your cousin's name for the second, but I don't think it's a huge issue either way.

kikirst33

Thanks!  

I was leaning in that direction but it's always nice to have confirmation.  

Calypso1977

arent same sex couples listed alphabetically?

for example 1, id put the husband's name first.  id also caution on using Mrs. Di Four unless you arent certain she uses it.  Ms. Di Four may be the better choice.

julibug86

I agree with putting the person who is closer to you's name first.  FI and I are averaging 6 weddings a year and this is what always seems to be done.  It only gets tough when you're close to both (like parents, aunts & uncles, etc.), in which case, I'm putting all the ladies first, just to make a silent "I am woman hear me roar" stand. 

i.e.  Susan & James Smith rather than Mr. & Mrs. James Smith (which drives me up a wall!)