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Should I invited people to the shower but not the wedding ceremony

My husband to be and myself are having a destination wedding. We are only inviting 20 people including ourselves. The guest list is immediate family and a few of our closest friends. We are however going to throw a huge reception/party for all the extended family and the rest of our friends after the wedding but it will not be a formal sit down and probably not for a month or so after the initial ceremony. But my question is should I invite extended family and friends to the bridal shower who are not invited to the ceremony? To clarify the people I invite to the bridal shower who aren't invited to the ceremony (with 20 people) will be invited to the huge reception a couple months after. Would that be tacky ... improper...or is it okay? This is a huge dillema of mine and would like outside opinions before asking the family...

Re: Should I invited people to the shower but not the wedding ceremony

  • edited July 2012
    Anyone invited to any pre-wedding party needs to be invited to the wedding.
  • Simple answer?

    No.

    A shower invite= a wedding invite.

    The reception you're having later is not your wedding.  It's technically not even a wedding reception (more of a post-marriage celebration).  So you should only invite to the shower those that are invited to the wedding.

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  • Hell no.  Also, you shouldn't be inviting anyone to your shower - that's the job of the person who offers to throw one for you.  You give the host your guest list, which should only include those invited to the actual ceremony.



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