My husband to be and myself are having a destination wedding. We are only inviting 20 people including ourselves. The guest list is immediate family and a few of our closest friends. We are however going to throw a huge reception/party for all the extended family and the rest of our friends after the wedding but it will not be a formal sit down and probably not for a month or so after the initial ceremony. But my question is should I invite extended family and friends to the bridal shower who are not invited to the ceremony? To clarify the people I invite to the bridal shower who aren't invited to the ceremony (with 20 people) will be invited to the huge reception a couple months after. Would that be tacky ... improper...or is it okay? This is a huge dillema of mine and would like outside opinions before asking the family...