Second year in a row, Wedding scheduled the day before my birthday!

MissLeahM

What do you have against Gypsies?

nhelene

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_second-year-row-wedding-scheduled-day-before-birthday?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:a914fab7-3b9d-4da4-9532-ff96996f4decPost:e51723b8-806c-4f59-81f2-be53a14871a9">Re: Second year in a row, Wedding scheduled the day before my birthday!</a>:
[QUOTE] I mean, we'll get together at a bar for my birthday, but I would by no means call it a birthday party, most of all, I wouldn't be upset if someone couldn't make it.
Posted by pumpkinpumpkin[/QUOTE]

I do this too.  And it's almost never ON my actual birthday.

laurenclaire1386

Oooooh, or 16 Candles is also perfect for you.

kristinanddan

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_second-year-row-wedding-scheduled-day-before-birthday?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:a914fab7-3b9d-4da4-9532-ff96996f4decPost:69a0a171-5ee5-4481-afef-9d069e193664">Second year in a row, Wedding scheduled the day before my birthday!</a>:
[QUOTE]I just want to know what gives.  Last year my uncle married courtney and she was the one planning the wedding.  She decided to have the wedding on August 7th, the day before mine and my uncle's birthday as well as the day OF my dad's birthday.  What further offended me was that when we brought this to her attention she IGNORED the comment, didn't come to my birthday party the next day, and didn't give me a birthday present although they normally do.  Meanwhile I had to shell out for a shower gift, wedding present, and miss out on being able to have a party with my friends.  I mean she totally could have smoothed things over when they did all the toasts during the reception but she didn't.  Now, this year my husband's cousin is also getting married the day before my birthday.  I am sorely tempted not to be in attendance because of how this makes me feel. <strong> I mean, honestly when I planned my wedding it wasn't on anybody else's birthday and if I had done that I would have at least agknowledged it. </strong> I just feel jipped.  I mean it was a bigger deal last year because it was my 21st birthday and I couldn't even drink at the reception.  But this seems like a pattern.  How do I address this so it doesn't happen to me again?!
Posted by meg2487[/QUOTE]

Neither of these weddings were on your birthday either. They're the day before your birthday.

opalsky007

No way in hell is this real. Too ridiculous, and you too conveniently worked the word "jipped" into your post.

On the 0.00000001% chance that you're genuinely this pissed off about this, don't think of it as getting screwed out of a fun weekend--after all, weddings are fun, right? Enjoy the open bar. It's what H and I will do this year when one of his pals gets married the day before our anniversary. We'll party with them, and enjoy the rest of the weekend together.

kikibaby

You should poop on her wedding cake, then replace it with an elaborate birthday cake. 

HTH!

wadingmoose

You only get one...uh...birthday?

Huh.  No.  That's not it.

LDYGTR13

obviously these people are trying to ruin your life, duh.

CLSchramm

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[QUOTE]Oooooh, or 16 Candles is also perfect for you.
Posted by laurenclaire1386[/QUOTE]

but..but...i like that movie!  Especially the part where the bride takes too many muscle relaxers and has to stumble down the aisle! <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-tongue-out.gif" border="0" alt="Tongue out" title="Tongue out" />

grrrace

weddings are so fun! what a great birthday present for you! 

Krysti21

You're not even a good troll. You just said that you "would have" acknowledged someone's birthday, had it been on your wedding day. But your profile says your wedding hasn't happened yet. Please try harder.

laurenclaire1386

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Second year in a row, Wedding scheduled the day before my birthday! : but..but...i like that movie!  Especially the part where the bride takes too many muscle relaxers and has to stumble down the aisle!
Posted by CLSchramm[/QUOTE]
Well I love the movie too. I'm just saying perhaps OP would relate.

sarah42nd

Celebrate your birthday on a different day if thats so important to you... Wow.  I have never even had a birthday celebration. You need to get over yourself girl.  Have fun planning you wedding to not fall on anyones birthday like nhelene said.


Maybe if you get off the internet and go make some money you will have money for your gas.

ugh...trolls there everywhere.

LeighPA

We are getting married on my fiance's deceased grandma's birthday. The ceremony will be held at the cemetery where she and his grandfather are buried, and will consist of us dancing on their graves.

Get a grip.

missy68

LC, have you seen Happy Birthday to Me? She definitely could relate. Google.

jayjoe

P2, your cuntishness will never surprise me Keep on keepin on...

Chelsey85

One I think you are a little crazy...two have your birthday party on your birthday...you said the wedding is the day before your birthday correct...three ditto to all the people that think 22 is a lot old to be complaining about this and for having birthday parties! 

pumpkinpumpkin

I think "cuntishness" was a bit of an over exaggeration. God I hate that word.

sarabellam

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_second-year-row-wedding-scheduled-day-before-birthday?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:a914fab7-3b9d-4da4-9532-ff96996f4decPost:157ea6c1-59ed-4dc1-adc1-15ed6444ca75">Re: Second year in a row, Wedding scheduled the day before my birthday!</a>:
[QUOTE]I'm mostly upset because it's two years in a row.  It takes up most of my weekend with festivities and then I don't get to have a party.  Nobody is going to come to a birthday party a week after the fact.  Plus with the other wedding she had me make all the bridesmaids jewelry and said she'd pay me back for it and she still hasn't made any effort.  I gave her all the receipts for supplies.  I am a college student and I don't exactly have $50 to just GIVE her for stuff she said she'd pay me back for.  I mean I'm trying to figure out how to put gas in my car...
Posted by meg2487[/QUOTE]

(on the slim chance that this is real) You've got to be fucking kidding me! You are bitching about a BIRTHDAY PARTY? Let me tell you, when my older daughter was 8, she missed out on having a birthday party because her baby sister (aged 5) had surgery scheduled on her birthday. This year, my younger daughter (turning 9) missed out on having a birthday party because her older sister had surgery the day before. Guess what. Neither one of them whined to me about it. Grow thefuck up.

shannonalise

I don't normally do this, but get over your fuucking self. Jesus Christ on a cracker. Are you kidding me? Do you need a nap? You should take one. Then maybe you'll wake up and realize how silly it was for you to allow this insanity to escape the privacy of your own mind.

And for fuuck's sake: acknowledged. If you had planned a wedding on someone else's birthday you would have acknowledged it.

I haven't read what the entire thread yet, but I'm just not in the mood to wait or tiptoe around this (and by this, I mean YOU) today. Now I'm going to go read. Hoping you will have grown up a bit by the time I'm done.

< -- I really am a nice girl, normally.

nda_roxybabe

Eh, this year my friend is getting married ON my birthday. I could not be happier.

luv626kee

you gals are HILARIOUS

shannonalise

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[QUOTE]<strong>I'm mostly upset because it's two years in a row.</strong>  It takes up most of my weekend with festivities and then I don't get to have a party.  Nobody is going to come to a birthday party a week after the fact.  Plus with the other wedding <strong>she had me make all the bridesmaids jewelry and said she'd pay me back for it and she still hasn't made any effort.</strong>  I gave her all the receipts for supplies.  I am a college student and I don't exactly have $50 to just GIVE her for stuff she said she'd pay me back for.  I mean I'm trying to figure out how to put gas in my car...
Posted by meg2487[/QUOTE]

You do realize that you're now talking about two entirely different things at this point. Your being upset about your birthday being hogged by a bride has nothing to do with the fact that she owes you money and you can't afford to wait.

*facepalm*

SarahPLiz

I would relaly like to know if OP knows for certain that her wedding day does not fall on the birthdays of anyone on her guest list, or their immediate family members.

I would also like to know how she expects her FI/husband's (bad AE, no date matching to post) cousin to know when her birthday is, much less know when her uncle's wedding was last year.

I don't get it.

wadingmoose

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[QUOTE]I think "cuntishness" was a bit of an over exaggeration. God I hate that word.
Posted by pumpkinpumpkin[/QUOTE]


Is twatishness better?  Because I like the ishness part of it for future use and beavermoosezillaishnes is just too much typing.

shannonalise

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[QUOTE]One I think you are a little crazy...<strong>two have your birthday party on your birthday</strong>...you said the wedding is the day before your birthday correct...<strong>three ditto to all the people that think 22 is a lot old to be complaining about this and for having birthday parties! </strong>
Posted by Chelsey85[/QUOTE]

O.o

Huh?

jnic0319

Grow. Up.

karenwjackm

Thanks for the entertainment, I was getting a little bored tonight.

 HA!
If you are anywhere near serious, you need to have a reality check, honey.  Apparently someone spoiled you rotten as a child and caused you to think that the anniversary of your birth should cause the world to stop or something.  Get over yourself.

And I like the advice to stay away from that wedding to save the other guests from your poor, babyish sour grapes.

JanoBean75

I had friends get married on FI's birthday. Year's later, another couple we all know got married on FI's birthday. His brother-in-law had a heart attack that day (the nerve!).

Guess what? NO ONE CARES.

My cousin's birthday is two days after my wedding. I'm going to make sure we stick a candle in his slice of cake. My dad's is the following week. He gets one too. Neither of them are making a stink of it.

emarston1

I'm confused.

You refer to a "husband" and that when "you planned your wedding" yet your profile says your wedding is not until next year.  Also you are 22, you have a lot of growing up to do until you are ready to be married.

What will happen if you end up having a kid with a birthday the day before or after yours?  Are you going to begrudge your own child for the rest of their life for ruining your birthday week or month?

But to answer your question, you should stomp your feet, whine 'BUT IT'S MY BIRTHDAY!!!!111!!!, and hold your breath until everyone in the family promises never, ever, ever to do anything on or near your birthday every again.

I guarantee no one will ever want to celebrate with you ever again.