How soon can I invite OOT guests?

haley05aggie

I apologize if this is a common topic, but I looked through several pages of threads and the search function isn't pulling up anything relevant....

My guest list is currently too high, but a large portion of the group is out of town family members that we are not close to and do not expect to attend.  How early is too early to send invitations to them and ask for a reply so that we can begin inviting friends and coworkers currently on the B list?

I know 2 mos before the wedding in standard, but could I possibly send invites for the out of towners 3 months in advance?  Or more? 

Any advice is appreciated...

caseylynne21

well it might help them plan for the trip but the idea of waiting them out so you can make sure you have enough space is not exactly all that great...in fact it is rude.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

I can't get it up for this. Someone else take over, please.

EmmaBride2B

Just because you send it out early doesn't mean they'll reply earlier.

Also, you probably didn't find anything about A/B lists because they SUCK. People figure out when they're B list, and it's hurtful. If they aren't important enough to make the A list, don't invite them.

haley05aggie

Thanks to those who were helpful!  I asked because I don't want to send a last minute invite to anyone (I agree it's rude), but have several friends and coworkers who would like to attend the wedding but won't be invited as the list stands now.  I may send the out of town invitations 2-3 weeks earlier than the others and hope for the 'thanks but we're not coming to Texas' replies but not count on it.