Small wedding bridal shower or not?

cackysgrl1942

My fiance was married before and had a horrible wedding due to family members (divorced mother and father) not being able to get along. I have a very small (my mother, my sister, and myself) so we decided to go out of town to get married with about 10 people. We do have a lot of friends and extended family. What is the ettiquette for having a bridal shower and registry? Oh I forgot to add we will be having a reception for all friends and family a couple months later.

QueerFemme

Agree with everyone else.  If you are having a small wedding, then you would have a very small shower.   The wedding afterparty is not a reception, it is a celebration of your wedding, and the people invited to that event, should not be invited to the shower.

Cortney1982

I would nix the idea of a shower and decline if anybody offers to throw you one.  As for the party you intend to throw months later, I wouldn't bother to register for that either.  I highly doubt you would get any gifts, it would come off as a tacky gift grab.

orangehills

I'm not a regular poster on here, but thought I'd pop in since I asked all these ladies the same advice a couple weeks ago. I just changed my wedding to have only immediate family and the wedding party- about 15 people. And with that, I realized I had to give up a bachelorette and bridal shower because with who is coming, a bridal shower of just those people would be kind of... awkward. So instead I'm just having a girls day- nothing wedding related at all, just a hang out day to celebrate life changes for all! It's a little sad not to have those events, but it's just part of having a small wedding, because you are- that party later on isn't your wedding so if you invited people not going to the wedding to the bridal shower, it does look gift grabby unfortunately!