Super expensive bachelorette party
My BF, and MOH, is getting married two weeks before me. We have already purchased our BM dresses for each other's wedding and are aware that each of us is spending alot of money on our own weddings. I really want to get her a good Bridal Shower and Wedding gift because she is my BF and vice versa but she wants to go to Vegas (across the country) for her bachelorette and this will cost me close to $1,000!
Her sister (MOH) talked to her and told her this might be too expensive for people and that she shouldnt expect a big gift from those who come because they will be spending a lot of money. Long story short, she threw a fit and said this is what she wanted and whoever wanted to come could come. She said that if there was no Vegas she didn't want a bachelorette party.
It's easy for her to say this because she's not paying for the trip. I feel upset that she wouldn't take into consideration how much of an expense this is for everyone, and me since we are both planning our weddings. She never asked how much would be ok to spend and I am feeling stressed out about this. I can spend the money but I'd rather put it somewhere else.
If I don't go she will be super disappointed and it will just be her, her sister, and her cousin. I feel like I should have spoken up sooner and now I don't know how to say I am uncomfortable spending this money. I don't want her to be upset with me.
What should I do? Should I suck it up and go or do I risk this uncomfortable convo and her being angry with me? She IS my best friend and I want to be there for her. I just feel this is a little inconsiderate.