Before the knot...

pumpkinpumpkin

I had never heard of [enter yours here]

Before the knot I had never heard of STDs, OOT bags, HM registries. And more, they'll come to me.

emilyinchile

Stag and doe/Jack and Jill
Dollar dances
Gaps
Cash bars

And I'm surprised about the cocktail hour thing too. Every wedding I've been to in both CA and Chile has had one, so I thought it was pretty universal. For the people who hadn't heard of them, what do guests usually do while you're taking pictures after the ceremony?

dolanjj

wait, i still don't know what TTD sessions and AHRs are???

danieliza1127

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[QUOTE] Every wedding I've been to in both CA and Chile has had one, so I thought it was pretty universal. For the people who hadn't heard of them, what do guests usually do while you're taking pictures after the ceremony?
Posted by emilyinchile[/QUOTE]

The dreaded gap.

I purposely had an evening ceremony with cocktail hour right after so that we didn't have to do a gap.  I'm the only person I know to have done this though and all of our friends are married.

missy68

Trash the dress sessions, At home receptions (following a destination wedding)


Ribbon Wand (but my dog likes the cat toy version)

Tiered Reception

Bathroom Baskets

danieliza1127

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[QUOTE]wait, i still don't know what TTD sessions and AHRs are???
Posted by dolanjj[/QUOTE]

TTD= trash the dress photos where you wear your wedding dress again and have professional pics taken somewhere cool - like a downtown area, a beach, the woods, etc.

AHR - at home reception you have in your home town after you get back from a destination wedding.

ribbonwands -
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lyndausvi

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Before the knot... : The dreaded gap. I purposely had an evening ceremony with cocktail hour right after so that we didn't have to do a gap.  I'm the only person I know to have done this though and all of our friends are married.
Posted by danieliza1127[/QUOTE]


Even with a gap I've had cocktail hours.  To me that is to entertain guests  until everyone gets there.  There are always people who are early and there are always people who are late.  It also gives a chance for people to mingle as they walk in the door.    Not  many people just walk in a go to their seat.  Nope they spend time giving hugs and kisses to everyone they know and do a little small talk.

Or at least that happens at every event (wedding or not) I go to.

pirategal03

- pre-wedding fundraisers (no matter what you call them)
- B-pics
- Dollar Dance
- Wishing Well
- "wedding shower" separate from "bridal shower"
- Small weddings (I'd never known anyone to get married and invite less than ~150 people)

RachNRich

TTD = My sig picture.

danieliza1127

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Before the knot... : Even with a gap I've had cocktail hours.  To me that is to entertain guests  until everyone gets there.  There are always people who are early and there are always people who are late.  It also gives a chance for people to mingle as they walk in the door.    Not  many people just walk in a go to their seat.  Nope they spend time giving hugs and kisses to everyone they know and do a little small talk. Or at least that happens at every event (wedding or not) I go to.
Posted by lyndausvi[/QUOTE]

Okay yeah, when you get the reception, you get a drink and find your seat before the bride and groom get there, but that's never been called a "cocktail hour" in my area and it doesn't last an hour or involve appetizers or anything.  It's usually just 15 minutes or so while people get a drink and find their seats.  Then the reception begins.

baystateapple

Tiered receptions (and I think I could have lived without that knowledge).

Dyed crinolines.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

That surprised me too, Lynda. What do you do at weddings otherwise? Eat right away?

I had never heard of b-pics, TTD, dollar dances, tiered receptions, secret weddings, bathroom baskets, photo booths or candy buffets. And "Jack and Jills" were just co-ed showers to me, before TK tainted that term. I also didn't know you had to give gifts to your parents and spouse.

I had heard of, but never seen, cash bars, bridal portraits, honeymoon registries and registry info in the invitations.

I also always assumed "cover your plate" was a good rule. I still don't think it's horrible.

pirategal03

I'd never heard of gifts to your spouse before that "Redneck Wedding" show on CMT...and I thought it was just something the producers made them do before I heard about it on TK

On_Cloud_Nine

Gaps
Boudoir Pics
Jack-n-Jills
No kids at wedding

There's more, but I can't think of it at the moment.

ETA: Rehearsal dinner invites

squirrly

Jack & Jills. 
Not inviting kids because they're kids. 
b-pics

NuggetBrain

Jack and Jill parties
Honeymoon registries
Tiered receptions
Boudoir and TTD pics
That cash bars were horrible

wcvsb3b5

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[QUOTE]I had never heard of dollar dances and I'm still not sure I get it. People pay to dance with you...that is just bizarre to me. I also always thought Jack and Jill showers were just another name for a co-ed shower. I'm still shocked that people show up at these things and are expected to give money.<strong> How do you pass the time at one of those?</strong>
Posted by L-Bride[/QUOTE]

It's basically a huge party with lots of food and booze.

JanoBean75

B-Pics
TTD Pics
Candy/Cookie buffets

Bubbalub

TTD
"cover your plate"
candy buffets
dyed crinolines
Jack 'n' Jill parties
OOT bags/bathroom decorations
Menus on every plate

psichick

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[QUOTE]1. Doing Boudoir Photos for your Husband's Wedding Gift 2. It not being customary to give a cash present that at least covers your head at a wedding 3. Dollar Dances 4. Having guests pay for their own alcohol 
Posted by LisaTyler1984[/QUOTE]

this.

plus
5. RD invites
6. OOT bags (been to OOT weddings, never got one!)
7. jack and jills

mica178

jack n jills
pre-printed thank you cards