I read your post about your low attendance and we are in the same boat. We invited about 136 and we only have about 70-80 coming. We still have some that have not even called or send their rsvp in. For awhile we were stuck at 45 and we thought "good lord" that really sucks. Our deadline for the rsvp was two weeks ago and we are still getting responses...but they are very slow in coming in. We are def. disappointed in the low attendance...especially since most are FI's relatives and really close college friends. They are all complaining about not having the money to make the long drive or to get flights. I comp. understand some of the people...but most have really great jobs, and make it a point to travel across the world for vacations. We made the effort to go to every single one of their weddings as well..... and it was during really hard times for us. Neither of us had a job...well actually I had a job but was still in college at the time so it was part time. But we def. made the effort to go. So yeah, I see your point. BUT FI and I decided to not really stress over the ones that aren't their and just be extremely happy for the ones that are making it a point to come. We now know who are "close" to us and who really isn't.