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Bridal Shower - is it ok to help?

EastSideBlondeEastSideBlonde member
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Ok so Bridal shower question...
I am having a small wedding party just the MOH & BM (wedding of about 60 guests)
My MOH is my BFF & SIL and I have known her since I was 18 & for 18 years lol
My brother (also the BM) is out of work and i don't what all the weight of my wedding on her shoulders.. she wont take any $ from me but is ok with me helping with the shower.. my work BFF says this is a no no I should just pass over the guest list and be surprised... any thoughts? i know tradition is one thing but reality is another <3 
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Re: Bridal Shower - is it ok to help?

  • cinderellasjccinderellasjc member
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    Although your MOH says she does not mind you helping...... I'm sure she would like to try to surprise you, at least with some things.  I would allow her to take charge of this one.  It's ok to mention... "if there is anything I can do,  I would love to help".  I'm sure she wont take on more that she can handle. :)

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  • EastSideBlondeEastSideBlonde member
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    She is great - I had told her i don't even want one and wont listen to that idea at all...
    She is defiantly in charge but asks me if i want to pick the day & if i want to know the theme so I can dress to match - I also see most of her ideas on pintests so i sort of know it will be a girly garden tea party style :) 
    I more want to help her out since i dont want her to do the set up and all on her own
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  • lb1212lb1212
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    It is so sweet of you to be concerned and not all bridezilla!  If you know they are struggling financially, why don't you make the hostess gift a gift card to the grocery store or gas station? One year for Christmas, when my bro was out of work, I called the utility company and they let me pay half of his bill.  He said that was the best Christmas gift that year.
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  • smartn2sexy08smartn2sexy08
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    Well what about your mom or other family. Tradition does allow for co-party throwers when it comes to your bridal shower. While you traditionally may not be allowed to be involved, other people could help out.
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  • EastSideBlondeEastSideBlonde member
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    Thanks - i did try to pay for her dress but she caught me and would not let it happen - i am lucky to have them so close and be so supportive :) 

    and well  my mom is a funny about showers - she does not like celebrating something that did not happen yet- so she wont be there - she does not do baby showers either just a gift after...
    and his mom is in assisted living and fixed income so i dont see her helping not even sure if she can attend....
    My work BFF is offering to help her a lot but she is the one that wants me to stay out of the planing :)
    I know it will be perfect no mater what i just dont want to be a burden on my loved ones <3 thanks ladies
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