I just got an email from my FI
2 parts of it sucked
#1. We were using a distant family member as a DJ, I had been trying to get in contact with them for over a Month to get them to come see the venue to find out where they will be set up etc. and they never responded, my FMIL finally had to talk to them to find out what was up. Turns out they couldnt figure out the nicest way to tell me they think I dont like them. WTH.. basically he thinks I think he is too old and will do something to embarass us or ruin the wedding (which i half heartedly do feel). The wife runs a DJ company and says they can send us a list of people to meet with if we decide to go with someone else.
UGH so now this is all on me, if I lie and say that I do want to use them there is this weird feeling because I know they think I didnt like them. and secretely I will think they are too old and will possibly not do a good job.. On the other hand if we go with another DJ from the company I feel like then they will know that was true
#2 suck part of the email
My FI basically went off on me for asking him to send an email I had asked him to send a week ago to his GM. Saying that he hasnt gotten a break, hasnt had a day off bla blah. He works full time, and does a side etsy business. He spends hours and $100 a month on the gym. He is now complaining that he spent 5 hours cleaning the house and is going to wake up early to clean some more. I work full time night shift 12 hour shifts and pick up so I get a full 80 hours per 2 weeks. Which means basically I am sleeping the day before work and then when I get off work, and its really hard for me to get things accomplished at night.
I dunno if its wedding stress/ monetary stress but its like we keep having this conversation of I want him to stop trying to work so much and just focus on more important things. And he feels like he isnt contributing unless its monitarily.
ugh all of this happened while im at work and now im super pissed off and upset.. and tomorrow we have a dance lesson and going out for my birthday and all I wanna do is give my FI the silent treatment.