Wedding time

JloveB

So sadly even though it is a sterotype, black people do tend to show up late for every thing...even weddings, usually 30 mins late....and in my fiancee culture, they tend to show up late as well....like an hour late,  

We are getting married in a destination area where none of our guest live so it will be like a vacation for them so they should be able to make it to the wedding on time...but I have a feeling neither group will...I really want to put the right time on the invitation but the fact is the lawn we are renting, we only will have it for 2 hours and clean up is 1 hour after, plus the set up we have to do is within our 2 hour time... we have enough time for doing everything iwithing rushing f people show up on time..

I was wondering if any of you have cultures that tend to show up late  to events and is there anyway you managed to get them to show up on time without flat out lying to them about the time.... becuase I feel  like it's my only option and it shouldn't be and I don't want to confuse people by giving different people different times and I want to put it in a polite on the invite about the extreme importance of showing up on time.

mrswac58

Well im black and you already know. My FI's a stickler for time and well as his friends and fam. (They are white). We are having a destination wedding too. Wjat im thinking of doing is making a wedding day schedule for our guest who will be staying in the hotel block.
So maybe if you are providing a shuttle or something to the site ,it can have the pickup time, address and the time of the ceremony . And encourage them to come at an earlier time for social time and state that it will begin Promptly at the given time.
Yea sometimes that CPT gets on my nerves esp when you are paying for it.

RC17

FI is Irish... they are 30-60min late... he odd enough is fairly timely but I agree and will probably also put in a schedule of events for everyone!

Im not messing about and want things to move smoothly as possible for the day!!

PP: A shuttle is a GREAT idea!

JSweetieXO

FI has said if people show up after 4:30 which is when I walk down the aisle....they cant come into the ceremony at all lmao. He will say something to them too!

kara811

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[QUOTE]FI has said if people show up after 4:30 which is when I walk down the aisle....they cant come into the ceremony at all lmao. He will say something to them too!
Posted by JSweetieXO[/QUOTE]

<div>Love this! I told FI there better not be late people there, or else they can't come in either! haha </div>

JloveB

thanks ladies...I thought about a shuttle...but I know my family and FIs family way to well...I have a fear I will put a shuttle time and they will all show up late for that....mabye I can rent a shuttle...put the wrong time on the shuttle so they don't miss that and have the shuttle leave on time...lol

mybooboos

Many people put two times in their schedule
* Wedding seating - 6:00
* Wedding procession - 6:15 (ceremony doors closed)

This tells guests that you will walk down the aisle precisely at 6:15.  Many people think that the time on the invitation is the time to arrive, not the START time.. If late comers are the norm in your families, give them 2 times, so they can expect what time you will actually walk down the aisle.

Cynthia1207

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[QUOTE]Many people put two times in their schedule * Wedding seating - 6:00 * Wedding procession - 6:15 (ceremony doors closed) This tells guests that you will walk down the aisle precisely at 6:15.  Many people think that the time on the invitation is the time to arrive, not the START time.. If late comers are the norm in your families, give them 2 times, so they can expect what time you will actually walk down the aisle.
Posted by mybooboos[/QUOTE]

I like this idea!  At least you're giving them a 15 minute window and they know if they aren't there on time well too bad. 

happe2gether

I hate to say it but yeah CPT is a pain in the ass for real!  I have a few family members who literally have to have it all about them and will be late on purpose.  The funny thing is our venue has built in "security" because its in the middle of a resort so if guests (stragglers) get too close or the ceremony is already in progress, they will be a$$ out.  I'm going to stress to those I know who will be late (even though most guests will be staying there and the resort is there) that they better be on time but once it all starts I have no concerns at all because in the end it is discourteous to me no matter who it is.  So it will be their bad, not mine.  

FI and family will not be late, I'm pretty sure of that.

Lisa50

I don't give a rat's ass about stereotypes.  LOL!   Our wedding will start on time, my family knows their butts better be in those seats prior to start time or they're going to miss the fun. 

Seriously, your family and friends know you best.  If they know you will accomodate a late start, they will arrive late.  If you let it be known, in no uncertain terms, that your foot will hit that aisle at the appointed time, they will be there.  I guarantee.  And if they still choose to be late, its their loss.

aghouston86

I'm going to be dealing with CPT, and HPT (Hispanic People Time) which is pretty much the same thing, lol, and FI and I figure that if people arn't on time for the dinner at the reception, they just won't eat, too bad for them!!

ellone400

Im padding it im telling telling them it starts at 6pm but actually starts 6:30 so i should be right on schedule

blaxnubian

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[QUOTE]FI has said if people show up after 4:30 which is when I walk down the aisle....they cant come into the ceremony at all lmao. He will say something to them too!
Posted by JSweetieXO[/QUOTE]

I said this to my fiance and he got mad. There's only one way into the room where the ceremony and reception will be held and when I walk at 2:30p, it would be a little awkward to have someone waiting at the door after me. Weird.

Cass