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Invites - separated couples

Julz629Julz629 member
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My aunt recently separated from my uncle and has moved to Colorado (from Michigan).  He lives in the house they owned together and she is renting a house so they are definitely separated, but they are holding off on actually divorcing as he is unemployed and they want to wait until he finds work so he doesn't have to worry about medical coverage.

I figured we would just send the invite to her, but then my mom wondered if she would be offended if we didn't extend the invite to him as well since they are legally still married. 

Another aunt is going to talk to her to see what she things, as we don't want to offend her one way or the other.  But I wanted to see what the proper etiquette would be for the invite.

Thanks!
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  • tenofcups4metenofcups4me member
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    Talking to her is the best idea. But if she's separated, they're no longer a social unit and I imagine she wouldn't want him invited.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_invites-paper_invites-separated-couples?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:cd062f89-8272-496a-b0ab-225e1f87acecDiscussion:476e02f7-574a-4cd2-9f43-aad5a95989ddPost:2f1d39f3-3e6f-4ac6-97bf-293b0354a3f6">Re: Invites - separated couples</a>:
    [QUOTE]Talking to her is the best idea. But if she's separated, they're no longer a social unit and I imagine she wouldn't want him invited.
    Posted by tenofcups4me[/QUOTE]

    Thanks, that's what I figured.

    We're going to ask her and obviously do whatever she would prefer.  I just thought my mom was crazy when she said we may still need to list him on the invite...
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  • aerinpegadrakaerinpegadrak member
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    My dad and stepmom separated after the invitations went out.  When he called to tell me, I told him he could bring a different guest if he wished.  Had I gotten the news before I sent the invitation, I probably would have addressed it just to him.
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  • quotequeenquotequeen member
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    I have a situation like this.  I think we're just not going to list the wife on the invitation.  But then there's always the chance they could get back together...
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