Do Adults living with parents get their own invitation

Angel452

I have some cousins and friends( over 18) still living at home with their parents.  Do they each get their own invitation? My mom says yes, because they are all adults and not a couple.  But for some families, that would be three going to the same household ( the parents, and two sisters being invited). That seems excessive.

Edie Bee

Yes, they would get their own invitation.

RetreadBride

Yes.

lyndausvi

yes.  

I sent 5 to one household.  GMIL, 2 SILs and BIL all lived with my MIL at the time.  They all get +ones so 10 people on an invite would have been silly also.

TXKristan

I've sent 4-5 to one household, too.  Kinda bugged me, but you do what you gotta do.

It was kinda nice that they sent back one RSVP for all parties in the household, though.

itzMS

Yes.

Remember, if the person over 18 is in a relationship, you really should be inviting their boyfriend/girlfriend by name as well.

Jen4948

Yes, they should.

katelynda

I'm not sending individual invitations. I'm putting all of their names on one invite because we are on a budget. Alot of our guests can't bring a +1 because we just don't have the money. They are also able to say how many people are coming on the RSVP card, so why do they need a separate invite? I can see how it is polite to send each individual an invite, but it's your wedding, your budget. If people get upset, they get upset. As long as you are happy, it doesn't matter.

RetreadBride

As long as you are happy, it doesn't matter.

Wrong. It stops being about your the moment you involve others.

Be careful that your One Perfect Day doesn't result in a lifetime of damaged or lost friendships.

sgrace711

I also have two over 18 year old sisters who live with their parents but I only sent one invitation. Technically, yes, each adult should get their own but I chose to do a single invitation because I honestly don't think they would care. They are not super formal/ traditional people. I would send a seperate invitation if A. they were the type to expect it or B. there was more than one family in the same household (like if one of the sisters were married). I did send seperate invitations to my fiance's grandparents and his married sisnter living with them. Just do what feels natural. It's your family, you know better than anyone what is appropriate. 

MeganMarie8605

In Response to Re: Do Adults living with parents get their own invitation:

As long as you are happy, it doesn't matter. Wrong. It stops being about your the moment you involve others. Be careful that your One Perfect Day doesn't result in a lifetime of damaged or lost friendships.
Posted by RetreadBride

If someone is so upset that you only sent one invitation that they won't be my friend anymore than I'm not so sure that I would have wanted them to be anyway. And your wedding day is not about everyone else. Contrary to what you think it's still about the bride and groom

RetreadBride

And your wedding day is not about everyone else. Contrary to what you think it's still about the bride and groom

You are wrong.  It stops being "the couple's day" the moment they choose to involve others in it, which they do by selecting a wedding party, and inviting guests.  The only people who think it's about themselves are spoiled, childish bridezillas.

Separate invitations are sent because the "child" is no longer a child, and is an adult in their own right.  They are now "in society" as individuals, not as extensions of their parents. That's the reason for the rule.

Don't assume they won't care just because they don't say anything.  It may seem petty to you....but what would you think if someone sent a wedding invitation to your parents' homes after you are married, with your name and your fiance's on it? 

Same thing.  It's to avoid the appearance of offense.

Yes, it's a small thing....but when you say, "Who cares? If they're that bent out of shape over a piece of paper, then they're not my friend to begin with," then you, yourself, are guilty of the same pettiness.

Trucker2007

Keep your budget in mind. If you can afford it; send them their own invites. If you can't I'm sure they'd rather be on their parent's invite than not invited at all. 

libbykoz

I think the person who is posting that you absolutely "have to"  is obviously someone who would be offended by not having their own invitation.  You have to examine your invitees and see if they would be offended.  We are sending one invitation to each house and are addressing it to the family, i.e. "the smith family",  if they are not living on their own, they do not get a date/individual invitation.  However, we do not have anyone over the age of 22 who still lives with their parents. if it was a 30 year old cousin, then we might.  I however do think that your true friends/ family understand that you are on a budget!  I also asked my mom to make sure they wouldn't be offended too, so you can always ask someone close to them to make sure they are not offended!

bdpbride

Yikes I can't imagine any of my friends or family getting so bent out of shape by wedding invitation etiquette to end a relationship over it.  That is beyond extreme to me and really very petty.  I bet 90% of people out there don't know what the 'etiquette' is on sending wedding invitations - hence a whole forum & section devoted to etiquette.

I agree etiquette says adults should have their own invitation and we are doing that for 'most' guests in that situation but not all because the the adult male children that still live at my fiance's cousin's house A) wouldn't care, B) wouldn't have the first inkling on any wedding etiquette period and C) would most likely lose the invite immediately - they are college boys so one invite that the mom will handle seems very appropriate.

If I was still living with my parents would I be offended by something like that?  Bottom line no, I really don't see it as a big deal but if you are concerned by the people you are inviting and you have the means send each their own, if not, I don't see much harm in sending one.