My aunt was not invited to the wedding, for my own reasons. We had a huge falling out 9 years ago and have t spoken since. If I am at a family event and she knows, she doesn't show or shows and blows me off. Ive pretty much just said forget it, its not worth it anymore.
my grandparents are invited to our wedding PLUS A CAREGIVER, my grandfather is older and in failing health physically. My grandma has eary signs of dementia too. They are required to take a care giver with them everywhere they go. We considered this, we sent the invite to grandma, grandpa plus caregiver thinking they would bring their day nurse (same nurse for the past 10+ yrs).
That being said they can not commit and FI and I have agreed its one of those situations, we are saving 3 seats for them regardless if they are coming or not.
I come to find out my aunt has decided she is the caregiver for the wedding should they come. My mom broke this ice to me. I politely told her "that's fine, its the caregiver of their choosing but if they are bringing her they can NOT bring their nurse" and my mother then tells me "she said if they aren't up to it that day then she will just come in their place". I stood my ground and said "if grandpa is too ill that day she needs to stay and take care of him, their seats are THREE OR NONE"
Basically it feels like my aunt is using the "caregiver" status as a reason to come regardless.
Am I wrong to say no that's not the case?? This aunt has never met my FI, heck she's never met 1 of my children (and she's somewhat local). In my divorce tried to make things very bitter between my ex and I. She told him I was taking the kids and leaving the state and a bunch of other stuff (he gave me the emails, bc we were still civil despite the divorce).