Dinner or no dinner

lizziemar1

My niece is getting married in June. The wedding is at 7pm so we are trying to decide whether or not we should have a sit down dinner or just hors d'oeuvre.  What's the etiquette for this?  Our mom says we have to have dinner, everyone will expect it but it we don't, it's going to save us $1,000.  What do we do?  Thank you!

QueerFemme

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[QUOTE]My niece is getting married in June. The wedding is at 7pm so we are trying to decide whether or not we should have a sit down dinner or just hors d'oeuvre.  What's the etiquette for this?  Our mom says we have to have dinner, everyone will expect it but it we don't, it's going to save us $1,000.  What do we do?  Thank you!
Posted by lizziemar1[/QUOTE]

At 7pm, I would serve dinner. If you want to just do appetizers and cake, I would push the ceremony to 8pm.

lyndausvi

7pm is dinner time in my world. 

kmmssg

7pm is dinner time.  If you want to not serve dinner then move the wedding to 8pm or 2pm.

hyechica81

dinner people want food at 7pm 

AddieCake

I would definitely expect dinner at that time. 

Viczaesar

At 7 pm you need to serve dinner.

NOLAbridealmost

Dinner.

donjoe2448

While I agree with the dinner vote HOWEVER...... I think that if your guests come not expecting dinner, that would be ok.  You could put something on your invitations telling that it is a small reception with no dinner service..... Or like someone else said, changethe time to 8PM. Although I think it needs to be asked whether the actual ceremony is starting at 7PM, or the reception? If the ceremony starts at 7 then I think you should be ok with not having dinner since there will be a wait anyways.  But like I said you could always make sure to add something on the invites about being only hors d'oevure, cake and drinks. That way people come prepared and dont have to sit through the ceremony (if thats when it starts) being hungry......