I need advice. I have been with my man for about 7 years now. We have had a ring for about 2. We are pretty "out-of-the-box" people where we have been planning our wedding since around november, un-announced to anyone in the family. My boyfriends sister just got engaged in february with her boyfriend of about 3 years. It was a complete suprise to everyone and kind of out of the blue. I had continually asked her when she was expecting it since i knew i was planning mine and she always acted like it was years away. We both have settled on September of 2014. Mine is because my parents got married in september and i would like to also have the same month.. Also we would like an outside ceremony and there are only so many months in St. Louis where the weather is tolerable. She is wanting to buy a house and get married next year. She originally told me summer/fall of next year but now that i told her september it seems like she is all huffy puffy that SHE wanted september and how dare we do this Just because we are not "officially engaged" she is having a fit about having to plan around our events. She doesnt want to have to worry about our events when she is trying to plan her batchelorette, shower, etc. Im really upset considering we have been planning for a while now, but because we were not 'official' about it, she feels that she has the right of way since she was "engaged" first. I dont know how to handle this. All i would like is for me and my boyfriend to be married first since we have been together so much longer and im not getting any younger. Can someone give me some advice on how to handle this. Im sooooo stressed over this. Help!!