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Jen4948

I'd not invite him or his parents, and tell anyone who asks, "His stealing and their denial got them scratched from the guest list.  I am not going to enable him to rob my guests."

another KT

You can have a family member empty the box regularly and put the envelopes in a locked car.

stantokm

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[QUOTE]You can have a family member empty the box regularly and put the envelopes in a locked car.
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Yeah, just make sure that he doesn't steal the keys belonging to the locked car.

lmhluckadoo

Another vote for not inviting. You don't owe them anything. Will they have a b!tchfest? Probably. Will you have stood up to them and shown them what they're doing isn't acceptable and opened their eyes to what's really going on? Maybe. That's a chance I'd be willing to take. 

kmmssg

OP has not returned to comment at all since she started this thread.  I looked at her posting history and she has a habit of deleting her OP's.  Lots of drama.

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I have to agree with other pp that the only option is to NOT invite him. You have to tell his parents that due to his past behavior he is not welcome at your wedding. It may mean upsetting them and they may end up not coming either. But is having them there worth the stress you're going to have worrying not only about your gifts, but the personal belongs of guests. I haven't been to a wedding where the women don't leave their purses at the table while they go get a drink or dance. Plus all the cameras & phones that will be sitting out on tables too. If you force the issue hopefully other relatives will support you and start doing the same, bascially telling them that if their son is with them, they aren't welcomed which will force his parents to face reality.

cmoceri5

Do not invite this person. If he is a thief he will go for way more than just the card box...rifling through purses while people are dancing, and I am sure his inhibitions will be lowered if he has access to an open bar. It's not bad to have a locked card box--I see it all the time and actually would not think of having an open box. Too much crap happens these days.

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smalfrie19

i agree once again! at this point recinding the invitation (while in bad etiquitte) is NECESSARY. I cannot believe you are putting yourself with this liability. If anything that should be your motivator. YOU ARE COMPLETELY LIABLE for anything. So if his "babysitter" had to use the john and this punk completely flucks up (crashes a car, steals a car, steals from your guests) YOU are liable NOT his babysitter. 

I feel like you are completely beyond hope though...so I guess I am just wasting my breath (figuratively) 

ANON920

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