So, initially she seemed excited about us getting married.
Then she found out we're having a civil ceremony. I'm an aetheist and my OH is agnostic, although raised church of Scotland. She has tried to change our minds, 'have a religious blessing after, and all my friends can come', 'have a religious ceremony' and 'I've spoken to the minister, he would marry you even though you eren't christened'.
I stood my ground that day, but things have been pretty crappy since then. It's been like a black cloud over what I reckon should be the happiest time of my/our lives!
My fiance sat her down the other night and told her that we had further discussed it (even though we had already done this before we spoke to her the forst time) and we definately were having a civil ceremony with a registrar. Apparently (I didn't go, because she has been rude to me since the first incident), she said it was 'a slap in the face for the whole family', 'selfish', and 'we've made our bed, we can lie in it'. When he broached the subject of venue, she stated she wasn't intersted.
I'm not sure now how to deal with this, because I said from the start I wanted everyone involved in the wedding. I'm willing to discuss colour choices, guest list, flowers and all that until I'm blue in the face, but I really feel religion (or my lack of) and choice of ceremony is something that is OUR decision to make.
Any advice/sympathy etc would be lovely.