Should they both get their own invite?

keochan

I realize that anyone 18+ recieves their own invite. I'm feeling a little conflicted about my brother though. My wedding will be at the end of October so we plan on sending invites in Early-mid August. The oldest of my brothers will be turning 18 that July and will still be living at home. I know he should get his own invite but I feel awkward it about because my other brother is only slightly younger than he is and I don't want him to feel like the older brother is getting special treatment. Should I just also give him his own invite or wait to explain it when they ask, which they will.

 If split the 1st invite would be:

Dad & Stepmom

Middle Brother and Youngest Brother(who will be 4 so I'm not concered about him)

2nd Invite:

Oldest Brother

My family is very laid back, and self proclaimed rednecks, so they don't care about ettiqutte, but I do.

TL;DR My oldest brother will get his own invite, but should the middle brother(17) also get one so as not to feel alienated and clumped in with the rest of the family?

Any and all advice is appreciated greatly.

keochan

He'll have graduated by then. Yeah, I think when the time calls I'll either call him or just send each invites, I'm making them myself, so it's not a cost issue.

tammym1001

My two nieces are in my bridal party and at the time of invites they will be 17 and 18. I am sending them both their own invites and then a separate one to my sister and their 4 year old brother. I do feel like the 17 year old would have felt bad if the 18 year old got one and she didn't. They don't necessarily know at that age that you were just following etiquette rules.