invitations

ccvasquez

I have friends from school that are married.  So I know my friend but not their spouse. When sending invitations, do I address to my friend and allow a plus one for the spouse?  We would be inviting both of them, but I am not sure how to address invitations.    

Simply Fated

You should use his name and address the envelope accordingly. If you are close enough to your friends to invite them to your wedding, surely you are close enough to them to ask them the proper spelling of their spouse's name.

Kate61487

a "plus one" is when you are allowing a single guest to bring a person of their choosing; this is indicated by writing "and guest" on the inner envelope (or outer if you're only doing one. 

 

Significant others (whether they be boyfriends, girlfriends, fiancés, husbands, etc.) should always be invited by name.  I found when asking some older guests for their addresses they wrote it as "John and Jane Smith; 123 main st" saving me the awkwardness of asking a spouse's name.  If that fails a simple "Can you write out the spelling of your wife's name; I don't want to get it wrong" can avoid the awkward "I don't know your spouse's name even though you've probably said it a dozen times" moment. 

Jen4948

Yes, you do have to include the permanent partner of anyone in a relationship, and you need to do it by name. If you don't know it, do your best to contact the partner you do know and get that person's name; only if you still haven't been able to get the name by the last minute when the invitations go out should you use "And Guest."

Maggie0829

If you don't know the spouses name then pick up the phone and call your friends and ask.  All SO's should be included on the invitation by name.  A "plus one" or an "and Guest" are for truly single friends that do not have a SO.

ccvasquez

Thanks for the help.  I asked everyone to confirm where to send invites, but only got addresses.  I have most of the names for spouses and only have few missing.  I have already asked to get the names down to make my master list.  Almost done with it.