Wedding Shower

tinambride

This question is more for a friend than for myself. How far would you travel for a wedding shower? My friend lives about 12 hours by car from the inlaws. Her MIL has very generously offered to throw her and FI a couples shower. Her and her fiance would have to fly which would cost about $700 total. They'd also have to take a day or two off of work. The shower would be almost exclusively friends of the in laws, so nobody friend or FI know.

I really don't know. It seems so generous that they're going out of their way to have this shower, but at this same time the inconvenience is difficult for them, and none of their friends will be there. How would you handle this situation?

loca4pook

I would probably decline the shower. IF they don't know the people invited, it probably wouldn't be very fun and many of the invitees might not show..Also, are THOSE shower guests even on  the invite list? if not, that is an etiquette faux pas

 

 

allispain

I would definitely decline, and say that unfortunately we were unable to take that much time off work, since likely they're going to be taking time off for wedding and honeymoon.

ETA: I should add, I would thank FMIL profusely for the kind and generous offer.

tinambride

Thanks! I'll pass along the info. I don't know if the guests are on the wedding invite list or not, but I imagine it's the in laws doing either way.