I give you ...... (what do we use at the end of the ceremony)

laradoll

Me and FI where talking about how we are going to be 'presented' at the end ceremony

(you know the I give you mr and mrs or whatever bit)

I'm keeping my maiden name so wont be Mrs FI 

Any suggestions?

artbyallie

Either just use your first names or both first and last.

"It is my honor and pleasure to present to you for the first time as man and wife, Laradoll and FI."

or "Laradoll Smith and FI Doe."

itzMS

Ditto PP. There are a bunch of options.

"Presenting for the first time as husband and wife, Laradoll and FI"

 

phira

We're going to use, "Presenting for the first time as husband and wife" for that same reason.

crimsonbride1031

don't say "man and wife"  pick either "man and woman" or "husband and wife" 

I think first names are fine, it makes it more personable and intimate.

hlvonb

I think anything you decided would be fine but I like the idea of now presenting as husband and wife FI's first name and then your first name. I have been to a wedding where the bride kept her maiden name and that's how they did it. I don't think anyone really noticed either. They were there to celebrate the marriage - not how they were presented. Lol. Let us know what you and your FI decide to go with.

VadersValkyrie

I'm hyphenating, but for the purpose of our wedding, we'll be "Mr. and Mrs. X" at the wedding and reception.

Jen4948

I'd take this opportunity to announce whatever titles and names you and your FI will be using after the wedding, because this is the moment when it comes into effect.

So if you're going to be Ms. Mary Smith-Jones and Mr. John Jones-Smith, that's how I'd have you announced.  You don't have to do it that way, of course, but it's helpful.

tiny speck

cmpondo1031 said:

don't say "man and wife"  pick either "man and woman" or "husband and wife" 

I think first names are fine, it makes it more personable and intimate.

The reason "man and wife" is what's traditionally said is that in Old English "wife" meant "woman." (it's the same in "midwife") So it really does just mean "man and woman," and not in some weird sexist way either. Just wanted to point it out.

Jen4948

tiny speck said:

cmpondo1031 said:

don't say "man and wife"  pick either "man and woman" or "husband and wife" 

I think first names are fine, it makes it more personable and intimate.

The reason "man and wife" is what's traditionally said is that in Old English "wife" meant "woman." (it's the same in "midwife") So it really does just mean "man and woman," and not in some weird sexist way either. Just wanted to point it out.

It still implies that a woman needs to be a wife to be a woman.  At least it does in this day and age.  And many people find that unacceptable.