The necessity of favors

sjw6789

I keep looking up ideas for favors, and I can't really decide on anything, plus I'm on a budget for this wedding. Now I'm seriously considering not doing them at all. Since I found an awesome special at my venue, I'm already giving people a buffet dinner and a 4 hour unlimited open bar. I fully anticipate the party to be plenty of fun. So what I want to know is, particularly from a guest's point of view, would favors really be missed?

NYCMercedes

Not at all.

ameraznhuney

It's a nice gesture, but nobody expects them.  They won't be missed.

AddieCake

I would end my friendship with you if there were no favors!  I'm kidding. The only people who really care about the favors are the couple (and sometimes not even them).

Dreamergirl8812

I'm not doing favors. I am doing a buffet and top shelf open bar.

D3bride

I'd be surprised if anyone missed them (where I come from we don't really do them so much, though, so I may be offering a totally useless opinion). From an outsider's perspective, they're cute and all but I wouldn't lose sleep over them. Your guests are there for you and your fiance! Getting stuff to bring home is all very well, but certainly isn't the point of the thing.

onelovelywedding

Favors really aren't a necessity, however, many brides use them as wedding decorations for the reception tables.  Use them if you think they will add to your décor at the reception or just skip them all together...

Fernella

You don't have to do favors at all.  I'm doing 10 Jordan almonds in little organza bags, simple yet fun.  My better half wanted Matchbox mustangs which HE will be paying for.

mnwatson1

We're thinking about just doing 2 or 3 little honey straws per person (because they go with other parts of our reception, and they're super cheap!) for favors, in a couple of flavors, but we are seriously considering no favors, too.  I think our reception decor is going to be largely garden-type decor and flowers, and FH loves hummingbirds (we're doing a glass hummingbird cake topper) the honey just seems an obvious connection, since hummingbirds drink nectar.    I'm not stressing over it though, and if we end up not doing anything, I'm just as happy with that too.

Bookie7

I don't think favors are necessary.  Most the time no one cares or remembers them afterwards.  Don't get me wrong, they can be fun... but definately not a requirement.

EPalmer2013

Thanks for asking this question!  I too am on a budget and I've been to some weddings that had cute favors but I know they are out of my price range.  I made my own invites using an iPad app so I decided that I am going to create a "thank you" card with a message from my fiance and I to be at each place.  (I found the idea on Pinterest of course!)

Most people have told me that they won't miss favors but as a bride, I think it's required to worry about everything!

Jules HardRock

I am so glad I found this! I think at most we will do some homemade treats in a bag with a thank you card and call it a day. Although the fiance is currently looking up personalized hot sauce, so we'll see...

Most of our guests will be from out of town, so luggage room is definitely something to consider.

PS- Where do I get one of those adorable wedding tickers/banners for the bottom of my post? Adorable.

Barb&Rodney

THANK YOU THANK YOU I'm a bride too, and have my mom telling me I have to do something, but I really think it's a pain. I've been to many weddings where I leave the 'favor' on the table, or 1 person takes all of the shot glasses or what ever before everyone gets theirs anyway.  I didn't care, and I hope my family doesn't either.  Candy the kids always seem to steal away with.. why am I still stressing about this??

 

thanks!!

Barb

smolli88

I'm so glad I'm not the only one who is in this boat! 

My mom and I just had this discussion AGAIN tonight!  She thinks we need to provide favors (her idea is a candy station) and I think it's not necessary.  I can't remember a single favor that I've kept from any wedding I've attended.

I don't hate the idea of a candy station...it just seems like every wedding does it.  And, we are already providing dinner, cake, and booze--why more food?

She had an idea of "thanking" guests for attending by having a favor with a hand-written "thank you for celebrating with us" tied to it (or something of that nature), and I can potentially work with that.  However, what would that favor be???? hmmm...

kmmssg

EPalmer2013 said:

Thanks for asking this question!  I too am on a budget and I've been to some weddings that had cute favors but I know they are out of my price range.  I made my own invites using an iPad app so I decided that I am going to create a "thank you" card with a message from my fiance and I to be at each place.  (I found the idea on Pinterest of course!)

Most people have told me that they won't miss favors but as a bride, I think it's required to worry about everything!

These cards you have at each place will  not replace the thank you cards for the gifts, will they?

AprilH81

We are not doing favors...  We are putting that money towards a gourmet s'mores bar.  

southernbelle0915

AprilH81 said:

We are not doing favors...  We are putting that money towards a gourmet s'mores bar.  

We did a late night s'more station. People LOVED it!

katieg520

Where I am from, favors are a BIG deal lol... people would talk about me for months if they left my wedding without a favor. That being said, it is necessary for me.

MobKaz

mklflowerchild said:

I think favors are great if you can get them to tie into your theme or colors...and if they are in your budget.

https://www.etsy.com/listing/164470071/mint-wedding-favor-with-personalized

@KnotPorscha, this is not the first board this poster has commented on with her "helpful" favor suggestion......

mizeryschild

Since my better half wants the wedding and I want to make him happy, we're going the traditional way and doing favors...

The twist is that we are going to fill tiny jars (think baby food jars) with M&Ms and place them on the tables, one for each person.  Our first names and our last names both start with M.

cidefi

I'm doing a candy bar as my favor.