Dear Prudie,
My ex-husband is a Disney hater. He's always held very strong opinions
about the evil this company has done to the world, their financing of
war conflicts, their stereotyping, and their indoctrination of young
minds. We have a daughter and when we were married, I accepted that we
would raise her Disney-free, even though I have fond memories of
watching Disney movies as a child. So our 9-year-old daughter watches
Disney productions when she's with me, but I don’t know if she’s told my
ex. I’m now remarried and my husband has family in California near
Disneyland. He loved going there a kid and would like to offer the same
experience to his stepdaughter. My daughter wants to go but is fearful
of displeasing her father. (My ex is also very jealous and has forbidden
our daughter to refer to my husband as her stepfather, but that's
another story.) My husband argues that my ex does not have any say in
the way we spend our money or where we want to take the girl for
vacation, as long as she's not endangered, and Disneyland hardly counts
as "endangerment of a child.” We're traveling to California in August so
we have to make a decision. My ex will say that we had an agreement on
how to raise our daughter and I’m violating it. Help!
—We’re Going to Disneyland?