FI has 4 nieces/nephews. One is his brothers from a past relationship, and she lives with her mom (is 7). Before asking any of the kids to be in the WP, we asked the parents for permission first. In the case of this little girl, I asked her dad (FIs Bro) to please clear it with her mom before I asked. He came back and said it was OK, so I went ahead and asked, and she was pleased as punch!! Yay, right?
About a month or so ago I had two dresses for her to try on, and we picked one tentatively, unless I could find one that better coordinated with the other girls. A week after that, dad texts me that her mom wants to get going on buying shoes and wants to know what I wanted (black or white or red sandals or shoes...im easy!)
Fast forward to tonight, when I came home and checked the mail and found the RSVP card from her mom was written as both she AND the daughter were not attending. Told FI to get on the phone to his bro NOW and find out what is going on!!
Turns out mom is pissed that WE (FI and myself) didnt go to her directly for permission, and is therefore not letting her be in the wedding or even GO. FIs bro says he will be telling her that daughter WILL be going as HIS daughter, and if she (mom) does not want to go that is her business.
I love all the nieces and nephews that we have (6 between us) and they all have a part in the wedding...oldest niece is my BM (my sis as MoH), the oldest nephews are one year apart and will be walking the moms down the aisle to their seats, the two little girls (7 and 5) are flower girls, and the youngest nephew (5) is the ring bearer. It would break my heart to have ONE of the kids not be in the wedding. She was really looking forward to it, it seemed to me anyway, and this is just mean.
Mom of niece has NEVER liked my FI. He is blue-collar, doesnt take shit from ppl, and she just has it in for him. I have never had issues with her on the few occasions (family dinners etc) and she has been pleasant enough.
What the hell do I do if FBIL cant make the mom come to her senses? My FI told his bro that if niece isnt at/in wedding, he will never be in the same room as her mom ever again.
This just really sucks. Had a hard enough day seeing my friends newborn girl who might not make it more than a couple days, and then to come home to this....ugh....sorry for the lengthy ramble.....and for bad spelling..my apostrophe key is broken!