My fiance and I are from two
different towns 4 hours away (same state). Due to health issues on his
side of the family and the relative ease for my family to travel we are
having our wedding in his hometown. We are keeping it small (around 50
people) and my mom is throwing us a party a week after the wedding in my
hometown for everyone that can't travel (100+).
My question is
this. My mom wants me to invite more than 50 people to the wedding
because she doesn't think they'll travel. Knowing the people she's
talking about, she's probably right. Whether they travel or not, she
wants to throw a bridal shower and invite them all there as well (in my
hometown). Now before I say anymore, understand I don't care about the
gifts. Between the two of us we have a lot (not all) of the stuff we
need anyway. I just don't know if I should be comfortable inviting a
bunch of people to a shower knowing they can't make it to the wedding
even though we are having a celebration party afterwards. I don't
expect gifts but they will expect to give them. Should I let my mom do
what she's doing, or should she only invite people to the shower that we
know will make it to the wedding, or should we not do a shower in my
hometown at all? My fiances family consist of mostly older people and
he has only brothers (all unmarried) so there aren't any women there
besides his mom that would try to throw a shower. Maybe some of the
people he works with but I don't know them well enough to be comfortable
with that.