I invited my cousin and her fiance to our wedding (which was last weekend) and they declined. She and her fiance are getting married next week in Vegas, but DH and I weren't invited. That's fine - I know weddings aren't tit-for-tat. BUT, my cousin and her fiance sent DH and me a check for $150 as a wedding gift. I realize they're a little more well off than DH and I are, but I was stunned that they would send a gift, let alone such a generous one. Since it was so generous, I'm wondering - should I send them a gift for their wedding too, even though DH and I weren't invited? I've already written them a very nice thank you note - and I think I can and probably should leave it at that - but the size of their gift just has me feeling a little guilty. I know one never HAS to send a gift, and I'm also aware that sending a gift of any kind in this case could maybe be read as passive-aggressive, since I wasn't invited...figured I would throw it to the Etiquette Board (you all have served me well in the past).