I need emergency help regarding Ceremony Seating

Sirry412

I am attending a wedding where the brother of the bride walks the mother of the bride down the aisle and takes the 1st row 3rd seat of the bride's side of the party. After seating the mother in the 2nd seat. I am wondering how standard (or not) it would be to continue seating family, and have the significant other of the brother (for 2 years at the age of 29...) sit in the general seating in the 3rd row and beyond. I personally think this is a little unsettling to say the least, but before I suggest anything to anyone, I would love to hear what you guys have to say.

Thanks ahead of time for your thoughts!

itzMS

Sirry412 said:

I am attending a wedding where the brother of the bride walks the mother of the bride down the aisle and takes the 1st row 3rd seat of the bride's side of the party. After seating the mother in the 2nd seat. I am wondering how standard (or not) it would be to continue seating family, and have the significant other of the brother (for 2 years at the age of 29...) sit in the general seating in the 3rd row and beyond. I personally think this is a little unsettling to say the least, but before I suggest anything to anyone, I would love to hear what you guys have to say.

Thanks ahead of time for your thoughts!

I'm assuming the significant other is you?

If the brother (your boyfriend?) is not in the wedding party, personally I would be beyond pissed to not get to sit next to him.

However, your boyfriend should talk to his family and/or just choose to sit next to you versus his "assigned" seat. You can certainly talk to your boyfriend about it, but you shouldn't say anything to the family or bride/groom.

Sirry412

So the brother has no choice but to sit in the 3rd row if only one seat is allotted to him if he wishes to sit by his SO, and the bride and groom shouldn't be offended either?

Sirry412

@itzMS I am the brother actually, I just wanted to write it in a way that is more neutral to start. I am hoping not to get any bias or sympathy. I just need to know. 

itzMS

Sirry412 said:

@itzMS I am the brother actually, I just wanted to write it in a way that is more neutral to start. I am hoping not to get any bias or sympathy. I just need to know. 

Sit with your SO.

Sirry412

Thank you for your comments Liatris20101 and itzMS. They really helped me a lot! Hopefully some other people don't mind sending in their input before I let my sister know I won't need a seat in the first row?

itzMS

Sirry412 said:

Thank you for your comments Liatris20101 and itzMS. They really helped me a lot! Hopefully some other people don't mind sending in their input before I let my sister know I won't need a seat in the first row?

You honestly don't need to tell your sister or ask her permission. Just have your SO save you a seat, and sit there when you're done with your "duties".

I highly doubt your sister honestly cares where you sit (or will even notice).

NYCMercedes

Sit with your SO.

calliopeia2013

...I think your SO should be in the 1st row, 4th seat, next to you.  I don't understand why she couldn't just be seated there by an usher before the processional.  (So, yes, I think sitting you apart from your SO, or making you sit in the back because the bride doesn't want your SO sitting with family, is unsettling to say the least, but, you know, also kind of insulting.)  But are you sure it's not an oversight on the bride's part, before really letting yourself feel insulted?  Is there a non-awkward way you can be, like, "Oh, sis, I just realized you forgot SO when you were planning out the family seating"? 

itzMS

calliopeia2013 said:

...I think your SO should be in the 1st row, 4th seat, next to you.  I don't understand why she couldn't just be seated there by an usher before the processional.  (So, yes, I think sitting you apart from your SO, or making you sit in the back because the bride doesn't want your SO sitting with family, is unsettling to say the least, but, you know, also kind of insulting.)  But are you sure it's not an oversight on the bride's part, before really letting yourself feel insulted?  Is there a non-awkward way you can be, like, "Oh, sis, I just realized you forgot SO when you were planning out the family seating"? 

Obviousssllyyyyyy the sister can't have the SO sit in the front row! She's too pretty and would take attention from the bride (sarcasm). Haha.

Anyways, I appreciate the OP asking for help, but this is just silly.

I mean, honestly. The SO won't die if they don't sit together for the ceremony, and Sis won't die if they do. The OP should do what he wants.

OliveOilsMom

I think your gf should sit in the front row with you and I would tell your sister that.  She can just be already seated there, when she arrives at the ceremony - she doesn't need to be in the processional at all.  I sat in the front row with my MIL at her other son's wedding (my H was Best Man).  I was her "date" that night, I even escorted her back down the aisle after the ceremony!

Sirry412

Thank you all for the thoughtful responses. I think I have averted a disaster due to you input!