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Alcohol at rehearsal dinner?

daisyamersdaisyamers
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We are thinking of keeping the rehearsal dinner dry. The other option is to pay for the liquor license at the hall and make it BYOB (we'd supply wine and beer and give people option to bring their own.) is it necessary to give people the option to drink at the rehearsal dinner?
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    AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    No, it's not necessary to give people the option to drink at the rehearsal dinner. Don't do BYOB, though. It's not polite to host a party for people and then ask them to provide anything for it. 


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    banana468banana468 member
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    On paper, it's fine to have a dry RD and still host an event that breaks no etiquette rules.

    You need to know your crowd and your other pre wedding events should also fall within that budget/style.

    A dry RD in our family is unheard of. At least beer and wine are served at family events - even DDs second birthday party had alcohol available for the adults.

    Also, if you had a destination Bachelorette, or your BM attire was something like $250 before alterations, IMO, you need to find the money to host alcohol somewhere.
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    gpeeplesgpeeples member
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    We didn't have a rehearsal, so there was no rehearsal dinner, but we had a dinner for our bridal party the night before.  In most situations, it's okay to have a dry rehearsal dinner, but our friends are big drinkers, and we felt like it wouldn't be hosting our group properly to not have alcohol for them (again, not saying that it's not okay in other groups).  This had the potential to become very expensive, so we picked a restaurant that was BYOB, and we brought a bunch of wine and beer for our wedding party to drink with dinner.  But asking your wedding party to BYOB is rude, if you have alcohol at the dinner, you should bring it or pay for it.
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    Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    If you're not going to serve alcohol yourself, it's okay to keep it dry.  But don't do BYOB-the guests shouldn't be required to pay for or bring their own alcohol.

    A rehearsal dinner can be very simple or very fancy, but it is a hosted event.  You need to pay for whatever is served.
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