My fiance and I have had an amazing journey during our wedding planning, but this last month has been so stressful since asking my (what I thought was) my best friend to be my maid of honor. I do not keep a big group of friends, but my girlfriend and I have been friends for 12 years. In the last 5 years I moved to NYC and she moved to San Francisco, but we still remained close and whenever we got together it was like old times.
I wanted to wait until she was back in town to ask her to be my maid of honor and I was so excited to do it, but when I asked she didn't act as excited as I had hoped for. For the three weeks she was in town she kept on changing the subject when I wanted to discuss the wedding and I planned a day to go dress shopping and she was late a few hours causing me to only be able to try on two dresses and that was it. She was trying to get me to buy a dress I didn't really like for what seemed like because she just didn't want to be there.
Then, right before she left she was explaining to everyone that she may not be back in town next year, even though my wedding is next summer. My fiance saw my face drop and asked if she would be coming to the wedding and she said, "Oh yea I'll come back for a couple of days for that."
I am so upset, I have cried about it to my mom and fiance and they think it may be best talk to her about maybe not doing it if she is going to cause me stress and not be happy during what is suppose to the happiest time of my life. I don't know what to do because I feel like this is tearing us apart more than bringing us together, but I also feel like if I ask her not to be or bring it up that she won't come at all and our friendship will be over. Any advice?