hi all -
background: i'm an only child and my parents are paying for the entire wedding. i live in california with my fiance, his family lives here as well, however my parents live in hawaii where i was born and raised. we decided to have the wedding in hawaii, and as i said my parents are generously footing the whole bill.
that being said, my mom pretty much begged me to let her be my wedding planner. it's very sweet since she lives there and all, however i'm concerned that she'll ignore what i want (which she already kinda has) and we will have disagreements and both be stressed. she helped me tour venues, and respected what i want when i chose one, which is great. her enthusiasm is great too, but as well-meaning as she is she's pretty clueless about the wedding industry. not only that but she gets kinda judgemental about my ideas and everything becomes a stressful "discussion."
(some examples: i chose three colors for my theme, and she had a major issue with one and stomped all over it and i had to convince her why it would be good... also i emailed her examples of some save-the-dates, and she ignored them all and wants to go with expensive DIY ones that i don't like.... etc.)
sooooo i've been thinking about talking to her about hiring a wedding planner/event coordinator with the idea that she won't have to "go it alone"... and i can work with them both. i want a professional with cool ideas who's worked with the venue and can help me be creative and make the wedding unbelieveable... not sure if my mom and i can do it on our own. is this a good idea? bad idea? advice?
like i said i'm really happy and lucky to be having a fabulous destination venue and really excited parents who are paying for the whole thing... but i really don't want it to be my mom's wedding
anyone have experience with this? advice? thanks in advance.....