I'll try to make this long story as short as possible. I've been friends with the bride for 11 years.6-8 weeks after getting engaged her and her FI decided to do a destination wedding in MX.
Before her engagement we hadn't been super close. She invited people to her shower that she didn't invite to her wedding even after I told her twice that it is not proper etiquette for her to do this. She didn't care and said she would invite who she wanted. This resulted in very few people showing up. Plus a very expensive trip to Vegas for her bach is in the works.
I did my best dealing with it and talking her off ledges. Obviously this isn't everything and there have been plenty of other reasons why I have chosen to step down. I feel like the friendship has run it's course and I was initially planning on just letting the friendship drift after the wedding which i dont feel is fair to either of us. I haven't told her yet, will tell her tonight, but here is where my dilemma is. I have the dress and I planned on giving it to her (even though I paid for it) because she is the type of person to replace a girl (this already happened early in the process and she is no longer friends with the girl who stepped down) I think she will even give the MOH title to another girl. After reading the boards today I see most believe to keep the dress since I paid, but with the wedding only being 40 days away she won't have time for another girl to buy a dress. I thought that would be the considerate thing to do. I have already cancelled the flights and the hotel reservations for the wedding. Also, she gave us BMs gifts over the weekend. I got something extra the other girls didn't get that is pretty expensive and I plan on giving that back too, just not sure what to do about the dress.