We are planning a DW and later a casual reception back home. I feel like we should just invite everyone to both, but my FMIL thinks we should only invite some people to the wedding and then all to the local reception. I'm worried that may seem rude and think that people can decide for themselves what they want to go to, but she is worried people might feel obligated to come to the DW (and that it seems gift grabby).
Did you have separate lists for your DW and AHR (if you had one), or did you invite everyone to the DW from the get go?
Also, did you invite less people to your DW then you would have had you had a local wedding, or did you invite everyone you would have invited to a local shindig?