I am a bridesmaid in a friend's wedding that is in 2 weeks, and I want to back out. The bride has been rude, insensitive, and selfish through the entire planning process to her bridal party, her mother, and her fiance. There are too many instances to recount, but in short her behavior has made me feel like disrespected hired help and not like a valued friend. Aside from the wedding, the bride is completely unresponsive and unavailable. She has been a no-show on several long-standing plans (one of her BM's bday party, lunch with friends, etc) without a call or apology. The only communication I have received from her in months has been e-mails from her with instructions about the wedding, all messages which are bossy and passive aggressive. I am embarrassed to tell people I am friends with her.
I had given up on this friendship weeks ago but hadn't really considered backing out of the wedding. Although I'm angry and upset, I didn't want to create more drama. However, things have been getting worse as the wedding gets closer. BMs have been receiving more and more instructions (and never a call to chat or check in as friends): what to wear to the rehearsal dinner, not to drink alcohol until the wedding so we don't get bloated, stay away from salt so our skin doesn't break out, stay out of the sun so we don't get tan lines, etc etc and (this was actually said, not implied by me) to put our hurt feelings aside so she can enjoy the wedding. I am so disgusted by her behavior and saddened at the loss of someone who was a good friend - I don't think I can stand beside her and support her in good faith.