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Do I have to do this?

kefryarkefryar member
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I'm going on a bachelorette weekend, and the bride/MOH decided it would be sooooo funny for the bridesmaids to wear thrifted 80s bridesmaids dresses out to classy places. Am I obligated, as a part of the wedding party, to do this?

 

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    KeptInStitchesKeptInStitches member
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    Ew. No. There's no realm in which I would do that. I'm assuming you haven't been asked, but more voluntold?
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    kefryarkefryar member
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    KeptInStitches the dress was bought for me after I said "oh, I guess I'll just blend into the background with my plain black dress"

     

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    KeptInStitchesKeptInStitches member
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    Wow. I'd "accidently" leave the dress at home. But I have what might kindly be termed as a problem with authority. (Well, not authority, but with being told what to do.)
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    kefryarkefryar member
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    KeptInStitches  bride has it in her posession, maybe it can fly out the window?

     

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    KeptInStitchesKeptInStitches member
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    Damnit! What a wrinkle ... is there any way it "won't fit?"
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    kefryarkefryar member
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    @KeptInStitches

    I'm 5'5 and a size 4, so there's a good chance it will be too big/long, but I think that would only add to the "silliness/funniness/happy joy" of it all.

     

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    KeptInStitchesKeptInStitches member
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    In all seriousness, I'd go with "I'm afraid that won't be possible," "No," or the sweetest, most innocent, most sincere "Why would I want to do that?" that I could muster. I wouldn't wear the dress, especially if it wasn't something I'd already wear in public.
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    kefryarkefryar member
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    I already literally said "NOOOOOOO".

    Maybe she thought I was kidding. I don't know.

     

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    KeptInStitchesKeptInStitches member
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    My itty-bitty foot would go down. No. You could say that her photos won't be very much fun to look at if you look pissed off because you're in something you don't want to be wearing ... (saw that this was from Pinterest)
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    itzMSitzMS member
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    I'd compromise and wear it for some pictures before leaving the house/hotel/getting ready place.

    Then I would change into my regular clothes.

    I don't leave the house in costume, unless it's halloween.

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    Xstatic3333Xstatic3333 member
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    itzMS said:

    I'd compromise and wear it for some pictures before leaving the house/hotel/getting ready place.

    Then I would change into my regular clothes.

    I don't leave the house in costume, unless it's halloween.

    This.

    I'd phrase as "it's a cute idea, but I'm just not comfortable with it. I'll wear an LBD so I don't stand out and the focus is on you ladies."

    I totally would feel the same. For my own bachelorette I only kept the crown on out of guilt. I felt so awkward!
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    Xstatic3333 said:

    I'd compromise and wear it for some pictures before leaving the house/hotel/getting ready place.

    Then I would change into my regular clothes.

    I don't leave the house in costume, unless it's halloween.

    This. I'd phrase as "it's a cute idea, but I'm just not comfortable with it. I'll wear an LBD so I don't stand out and the focus is on you ladies." I totally would feel the same. For my own bachelorette I only kept the crown on out of guilt. I felt so awkward!
    This. They definitely can't make you wear something. That's a really stupid idea. 
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    akmiller2010akmiller2010 member
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    I think you should get her an awful thrifted wedding gown, and tell her you'll only wear your dress if she wears her. I bet it won't be quite as cute or as much fun then!

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    OP I don't know where you are, but the only place I would be ok wearing that would be to "Awesome 80's Prom" in NYC (similar idea to "Tony and Tina's Wedding"). Otherwise...no. 

    P.S. I am dying to go to Awesome 80's Prom. 
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    kefryarkefryar member
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    Update, we went out and got stared at/laughed at/looked like general idiots. I was sober so I actually realized this. I did manage to lose my sash, mask, and penis ring (whoops).

    I guess all that matters is that the bride to be looked beautiful and had fun. And the creepy guys stayed away from me, at least.

     

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    Bubblegum5586Bubblegum5586 member
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    @kefryar - no creepy guys are always a plus... I think you a very nice friend for doing that for the bride!
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    kefryar said:

    Update, we went out and got stared at/laughed at/looked like general idiots. I was sober so I actually realized this. I did manage to lose my sash, mask, and penis ring (whoops).

    I guess all that matters is that the bride to be looked beautiful and had fun. And the creepy guys stayed away from me, at least.

    OMG, props to you for doing that.  Also, pictures or it didn't happen (although I'd recommend cropping these particular kind to avoid infamy).
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    PrettyGirlLostPrettyGirlLost member
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    Huh?  Is this a thing now?

    "Love is the one thing we're capable of perceiving that transcends time and space."


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    kefryarkefryar member
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    Huh?  Is this a thing now?

    I hope not.

     

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