RSVP by...?

gkbeverly

Im not sure how far out I would like guest to rsvp to our wedding. Any thoughts?

Birdie344

I've read online a few times it should be about 4-6 weeks away from the actual wedding. I did read 2 wks also which is crazy to me! I'm going to do 6 wks exactly, just to give me a better head count and enough time to inform the venue and the seating chart, my insanity etc. I personally think a month is too close also if you do the date too far out, there's the possibility of people forgetting to RSVP! But if people don't RSVP by maybe 2-3 wks before, I will call them myself and check so I don't end up with un-rsvp'd guests!

mlg78

This all depends on when your venue needs to know the count.  For me, my wedding date is 9/21. The count was needed 9/11 so we did an RSVP date of 9/5 which gave us 6 days to track people down.  We waited until after the mail arrived on 9/6 and we only had 5% of our guest list to talk to at that point so within a couple days it was taken care of.  You don't need more than a few days to contact guests.

tammym1001

Invitations are supposed to be sent 6-8 weeks before the wedding. You should give people a couple of weeks to figure out work schedules, babysitting, travel, etc. so I would say at the most 4 weeks before the wedding. Depending on when your venue needs numbers 2 weeks before the event would probably be preferable. Not everyone knows what they are doing a month from now. 2 weeks will still give you plenty of time to track down stragglers and make a seating chart.

j-harvey

 

LDubHawksFan

Ditto pp. find out when your vendors need their final count. Most caterers are like 2 wks, then give yourself a few days for straggler RSVPs to come in and a few days for you to call. We did about 10 days earlier than when our caterer needed our final count.

southernbelle0915

You should ask for RSVPs about 2-3 weeks before your wedding day. Don't go any further out than a month. 

Majelin86

We set our RSVP date for about 4 weeks before the wedding.

Jen4948

I'd say somewhere between 2 and 4 weeks, depending on what your vendors need.  4 weeks should be your outer limit though.

MyNameIsNot

Back up about a week from the date you need a final count.  For most people, that's 2-3 weeks ahead of the wedding.  

Anything earlier than a month in advance is rude.  You can't ask people to commit that far in advance.  

HisGirlFriday13

Birdie344 said:

I've read online a few times it should be about 4-6 weeks away from the actual wedding. I did read 2 wks also which is crazy to me! I'm going to do 6 wks exactly, just to give me a better head count and enough time to inform the venue and the seating chart, my insanity etc. I personally think a month is too close also if you do the date too far out, there's the possibility of people forgetting to RSVP! But if people don't RSVP by maybe 2-3 wks before, I will call them myself and check so I don't end up with un-rsvp'd guests!

Wherever you read that, it's wrong, and that's crazy. Invitations themselves shouldn't go out more than 6 to 8 weeks in advance of the wedding; RSVPs shouldn't be needed back more than 3 weeks in advance. Our RSVP deadline is 17 days before our wedding. That's more than enough time to track down missing RSVPs, get a final headcount to the caterer, and draw up the seating chart. 

Find out when your venue/caterer/cake person/whomever needs a final headcount, and back up a week to at most 10 days from that. That's your RSVP deadline. The week to 10-day cushion between when you ask for the RSVPs to be returned by and when you actually need to give a headcount to anyone is your cushion to round up stragglers.

drandreasalazar

My RSVPs were due on the 1st of the month... I finally had a correct head count on the 9th ( late people, people that all of a sudden couldnt come after they said yes they were attending!!).  I gave my reception place my number on the 11th of the month and they needed it by the 14th.  My wedding  is on the 28th of this month