I've been engaged 2 months & we've been struggling to decide what we want to do for our wedding. So far the idea we're liking most is to elope to Hawaii & have a ceremony for just the two of us. Then (possibly) having a small reception/party later on with family and friends (he's in the military so there would probably be a gap between the elopement/honeymoon and ceremony because of that).
I'm not sure how our families are going to feel about it, I don't expect any majorly angry relatives, but I do think some will be disappointed. However, it's our day & neither of us really wants a large ceremony and after recently visiting Hawaii & looking at online photos of Hawaiian elopements I fell in love with the idea.
My question is, do we tell our families beforehand that this is what we are planning? I've heard some people say to keep it a secret until you're married because it will just lead to people trying to talk you out of it. But our families know about the engagement and are constantly asking if we've made plans yet, so to plan an elopement 6-12 months down the road and keep it a secret seems wrong. Should we just tell everyone we plan on eloping (assuming we go that route) next time they ask?
(I realize many people don't consider anything planned ahead of time to be eloping, but please don't focus on the word choice)