My reception venue is a country club with a relatively strict "no jeans" rule -- the woman at the venue who has been handling all my wedding plans did make sure to tell us this, so I know my reception isn't going to be an exception to this rule.
I've scanned the boards and I'm a bit conflicted: I don't want to offend my guests by implying that they'd be tacky enough to wear denim to my wedding, so I'm really, really hesitant to put that on my invitations (plus, I mean, I know it's bad etiquette to do that). I also don't want them to think that I'm being picky on what they wear. Ordinarily, I'd just kind of roll my eyes and brush it off. On the other hand, I know some of my guests would, in fact, be the type of people to wear denim to my wedding/reception -- which, okay, yeah, that's not a big deal except that they will not be allowed to come to the reception if they are in jeans. I've seen it mentioned in a few threads that it's okay to put such dress code restrictions on invitations when it's an actual rule, not just the bride's preference, but in other threads I've seen it mentioned that it is never acceptable to put dress code on the invitation.
Is there a tactful way to do this? I've thought about maybe just putting it on a wedding website with all that other doesn't-go-on-the-invite jazz. But it's just as likely that no one will read that. Would putting it on a separate insert card in the invitation be acceptable? Or should I go with my gut reaction to just not say anything and hope people will actually dress accordingly?