Unpopular Opinions/ Pet Peeves - October

grumbledore

My UO:  I think engagement photos are stupid.  They are a waste of money and honestly, why the fuck do you need that many pictures of yourself?  I can't even wrap my head around getting my picture taken all day for the wedding, but at least that's a once in a lifetime event that it makes sense to record.    It just reeks of "Look at me!  I'm special!  I'm getting married!  LOOK AT ME.  NOW."  The only "engagement" photo I would want would be one of the actual moment that we got engaged - that would be sweet, and is an actual occasion worth recording.

shaylagirl

PDKH said:

TheFutureMrsRohlman22 said:

PDKH said:

JustNicki said:

UO: I hate sexy/slinky sheath wedding dresses.  It's a wedding.  Not a wedding porno.

PP: Cyclists who don't obey traffic laws.  I live in Chicago and there are TONS of people who do this! I get that it's great that your biking saves the planet, but don't be a hipster douche about it and obey the fucking rules!!!!

Don't ever move to Denver. The bikers there are ridiculous and rude.

Boulder's worse.

Ugh - Boulder is worse. I avoid it at all costs. 

Come to Austin.  Fucking Lance Armstrong.    The cyclists here are CRACKMONKEYS on the sides of the road.  And, we've got laws that dictate you must give the cyclists 6 feet of room within the city of Austin.

Which is why I LOVE it when they cycle their spandex-clad asses out to the sticks where the shoulders are tiny.  I'm not giving you 6 feet jackass.  GTFO!!  It's also fun when we're on the motorcycle; we do crowd them a little bit then just to mess with them.

manateehugger

grumbledore said:

My UO:  I think engagement photos are stupid.  They are a waste of money and honestly, why the fuck do you need that many pictures of yourself?  I can't even wrap my head around getting my picture taken all day for the wedding, but at least that's a once in a lifetime event that it makes sense to record.    It just reeks of "Look at me!  I'm special!  I'm getting married!  LOOK AT ME.  NOW."  The only "engagement" photo I would want would be one of the actual moment that we got engaged - that would be sweet, and is an actual occasion worth recording.

Eh - we did engagement photos because I wanted them for our STD's and because we had no pictures together beyond random horribleness left over from college. 

We did a half hour session and have a grand total of 5 finished photos from it. That was plenty haha. 

KeptInStitches

Thanks, @pdkh! BF and I have almost no photos together (and yes, we've been dating for almost 5 years - I just have an uncommonly strong aversion to cameras), and I know he really wants to do engagement photos if/when we get engaged so that we have some nice photos of us together. It's good to know that you can get some good photos out of not much time.

manateehugger

KeptInStitches said:

Thanks, @pdkh! BF and I have almost no photos together (and yes, we've been dating for almost 5 years - I just have an uncommonly strong aversion to cameras), and I know he really wants to do engagement photos if/when we get engaged so that we have some nice photos of us together. It's good to know that you can get some good photos out of not much time.

@KeptInStitches - yep, we just poked around until we found a photographer who did "mini-sessions." I think we had 15-20 photos that she put in our online gallery, and we selected 5 from those to have on DVD with printing rights. No site changes (though we did ours by a lake, so we have water photos and woodsy photos depending on the angle) and no outfit changes, but that was fine with us. 

grumbledore

PDKH said:

grumbledore said:

My UO:  I think engagement photos are stupid.  They are a waste of money and honestly, why the fuck do you need that many pictures of yourself?  I can't even wrap my head around getting my picture taken all day for the wedding, but at least that's a once in a lifetime event that it makes sense to record.    It just reeks of "Look at me!  I'm special!  I'm getting married!  LOOK AT ME.  NOW."  The only "engagement" photo I would want would be one of the actual moment that we got engaged - that would be sweet, and is an actual occasion worth recording.

Eh - we did engagement photos because I wanted them for our STD's and because we had no pictures together beyond random horribleness left over from college. 

We did a half hour session and have a grand total of 5 finished photos from it. That was plenty haha. 

Well, that sounds relatively sane.  But these multi-hour, multi-costume-change monstrosity engagement shoots make me want to puke.  To each their own, but that's my unpopular opinion.  I think it's just another wedding industry racket that couples now "need" to do.

manateehugger

grumbledore said:

PDKH said:

grumbledore said:

My UO:  I think engagement photos are stupid.  They are a waste of money and honestly, why the fuck do you need that many pictures of yourself?  I can't even wrap my head around getting my picture taken all day for the wedding, but at least that's a once in a lifetime event that it makes sense to record.    It just reeks of "Look at me!  I'm special!  I'm getting married!  LOOK AT ME.  NOW."  The only "engagement" photo I would want would be one of the actual moment that we got engaged - that would be sweet, and is an actual occasion worth recording.

Eh - we did engagement photos because I wanted them for our STD's and because we had no pictures together beyond random horribleness left over from college. 

We did a half hour session and have a grand total of 5 finished photos from it. That was plenty haha. 

Well, that sounds relatively sane.  But these multi-hour, multi-costume-change monstrosity engagement shoots make me want to puke.  To each their own, but that's my unpopular opinion.  I think it's just another wedding industry racket that couples now "need" to do.

Well yeah, I don't disagree with you there. A friend I was just a BM for got over 200 engagement photos. They used one for their STD photo and one for a guestbook. What she's doing with the other 198, I have NO clue lol. And I know she paid out a boatload for them. 

Edited because I can't type.

selenathegreat

Unpopular opinions: 1) I think all sports are pointless and boring and I vomit a little whenever anyone talks about their team.

2) I have no problem with PPDs as long as no lying is involved, but I'm not saying that on the Etiquette board.

3) I can't stand it when people treat their pets like children. You're staying home tonight because your neurotic cat will miss you? Really?

Pet peeves: Leggings worn as pants. Shirts worn as dresses. Hats with the proof of purchase stickers still on them. People coming up and trying to start a conversation with me when I'm reading. If I want to talk to you I'll put the book down. People on their phones while we're eating together or watching a movie.

Maggie0829

The way PDKH did her engagement photo session are the only one's that I can really get my head around.

H and I really don't have any great pictures of us (except our wedding photos) and we really don't care that we don't.  We don't need posed or professionally taken photos.  We prefer fun photos of us out and about with our friends because those mean more to us then professional photos as artistic angles in coordinated outfits.  That really doesn't represent us as a couple.  But the fun and silly pictures do.

smalfrie19

PDKH said:

grumbledore said:

PDKH said:

grumbledore said:

My UO:  I think engagement photos are stupid.  They are a waste of money and honestly, why the fuck do you need that many pictures of yourself?  I can't even wrap my head around getting my picture taken all day for the wedding, but at least that's a once in a lifetime event that it makes sense to record.    It just reeks of "Look at me!  I'm special!  I'm getting married!  LOOK AT ME.  NOW."  The only "engagement" photo I would want would be one of the actual moment that we got engaged - that would be sweet, and is an actual occasion worth recording.

Eh - we did engagement photos because I wanted them for our STD's and because we had no pictures together beyond random horribleness left over from college. 

We did a half hour session and have a grand total of 5 finished photos from it. That was plenty haha. 

Well, that sounds relatively sane.  But these multi-hour, multi-costume-change monstrosity engagement shoots make me want to puke.  To each their own, but that's my unpopular opinion.  I think it's just another wedding industry racket that couples now "need" to do.

Well yeah, I don't disagree with you there. A friend I was just a BM for got over 200 engagement photos. They used one for their STD photo and one for a guestbook. What she's doing with the other 198, I have NO clue lol. And I know she paid out a boatload for them. 

Edited because I can't type.

We also did them, but my aunt who is a photog did them..and I think we have 30 total? And they just now sit in a book on the coffee table.

easilyunamused

smalfrie19 said:

PDKH said:

grumbledore said:

PDKH said:

grumbledore said:

My UO:  I think engagement photos are stupid.  They are a waste of money and honestly, why the fuck do you need that many pictures of yourself?  I can't even wrap my head around getting my picture taken all day for the wedding, but at least that's a once in a lifetime event that it makes sense to record.    It just reeks of "Look at me!  I'm special!  I'm getting married!  LOOK AT ME.  NOW."  The only "engagement" photo I would want would be one of the actual moment that we got engaged - that would be sweet, and is an actual occasion worth recording.

Eh - we did engagement photos because I wanted them for our STD's and because we had no pictures together beyond random horribleness left over from college. 

We did a half hour session and have a grand total of 5 finished photos from it. That was plenty haha. 

I'm actually glad we did an engagement shoot. I found out the hard way that our wedding photographers weren't very good. (We had different photogs for each)

thisismynickname2

PDKH said:

grumbledore said:

My UO:  I think engagement photos are stupid.  They are a waste of money and honestly, why the fuck do you need that many pictures of yourself?  I can't even wrap my head around getting my picture taken all day for the wedding, but at least that's a once in a lifetime event that it makes sense to record.    It just reeks of "Look at me!  I'm special!  I'm getting married!  LOOK AT ME.  NOW."  The only "engagement" photo I would want would be one of the actual moment that we got engaged - that would be sweet, and is an actual occasion worth recording.

Eh - we did engagement photos because I wanted them for our STD's and because we had no pictures together beyond random horribleness left over from college. 

We did a half hour session and have a grand total of 5 finished photos from it. That was plenty haha. 

I wasn't planning on it, but a two hour session came with our package. I'm so glad we did it for two reasons: 1, practice! I feel like our wedding photos won't look awkward because now we know how we think we look good and how our photographer works. 2, High school or college (Greek!) is the last time you probably have formal portraits until marriage and kids. It's been eight years since I had a truly nice photo of myself taken. Our moms are thrilled with the photos and want to send copies to family. We framed three (one for home, two for offices) and I put 20 in an album. This might sound vain to people but I love photography, the photos are gorgeous (Chicago skyline) and seeing a beautiful photo of my fiance on my desk during boring conference calls makes me happy. To each their own

APDSS22

Well, that sounds relatively sane.  But these multi-hour, multi-costume-change monstrosity engagement shoots make me want to puke.  To each their own, but that's my unpopular opinion.  I think it's just another wedding industry racket that couples now "need" to do.

Oops, guess I'm not really married since I didn't have engagement photos...(sarcasm font)  I understand doing a couple of shots so you have formal pictures as a couple but hours and hours with multiple outfit changes...seems pointless to me.  But then again, I hate taking pictures. A lot.  I usually look like a beaver because I have a super-fast blink response.

NavyBlue143

We used our engagement photos to test out our photographer. The session was only 150, and we did them at the Renaissance festival where he proposed. Plus, like others said, it was nice to have some good pictures of us since I normally do not photograph well. Although the candid shots are my favorites from the shoot.

grumbledore

Hearing you all, but I still think they're stupid.

climbingsingle

grumbledore said:

My UO:  I think engagement photos are stupid.  They are a waste of money and honestly, why the fuck do you need that many pictures of yourself?  I can't even wrap my head around getting my picture taken all day for the wedding, but at least that's a once in a lifetime event that it makes sense to record.    It just reeks of "Look at me!  I'm special!  I'm getting married!  LOOK AT ME.  NOW."  The only "engagement" photo I would want would be one of the actual moment that we got engaged - that would be sweet, and is an actual occasion worth recording.

Totally agree! 

PrettyGirlLost

grumbledore said:

My UO:  I think engagement photos are stupid.  They are a waste of money and honestly, why the fuck do you need that many pictures of yourself?  I can't even wrap my head around getting my picture taken all day for the wedding, but at least that's a once in a lifetime event that it makes sense to record.    It just reeks of "Look at me!  I'm special!  I'm getting married!  LOOK AT ME.  NOW."  The only "engagement" photo I would want would be one of the actual moment that we got engaged - that would be sweet, and is an actual occasion worth recording.

Around here, almost all of the wedding photography packages include a free engagement photo session. . . so you have already spent the money, lol!

I'm having them done for that reason- hate away!

maryemoo

 PP: People that pop-in. That shit is not cool. Please don't show up announced at my house. That might have flown when FI was a bachelor, but he's not anymore. I live here, along with my dog. Don't just roll up on our house and open the door. Asshats. Sorry - I'm clearly very irritated by that ;-)

Even before I met my fiancé there were VERY FEW of my OWN friends that I would let do this! I still don't! Common courtesy!

KatWAG

PP: When grooms or groomsmen wear both a pocket square and a boutt. Pick one, not both.

easilyunamused

KatWAG said:

PP: When grooms or groomsmen wear both a pocket square and a boutt. Pick one, not both.

UO: I hate boutonnieres for weddings. Always looks "promy" to me. 

SP29

UO: People who wear sweatshirts with shorts. I know, lots of people do it, keep the core warm and the legs feel fine, but I just don't understand it. If it's cold enough to wear a sweater, it's too cold for shorts. 

PP: People who do not merge at road speed. Particularly on the highway. Likewise, people who drive significantly under the speed limit (in clear road conditions), again, particularly on the highway. Since living in AB, it's a regular thing to come driving up behind a vehicle that is going 20km under the speed limit (or trying to merge this slow)- driving that much under the speed limit is dangerous too!!!

People who wear tights/leggings as pants. 

JustNicki

shaylagirl said:

PDKH said:

TheFutureMrsRohlman22 said:

PDKH said:

JustNicki said:

UO: I hate sexy/slinky sheath wedding dresses.  It's a wedding.  Not a wedding porno.

PP: Cyclists who don't obey traffic laws.  I live in Chicago and there are TONS of people who do this! I get that it's great that your biking saves the planet, but don't be a hipster douche about it and obey the fucking rules!!!!

Don't ever move to Denver. The bikers there are ridiculous and rude.

Boulder's worse.

Ugh - Boulder is worse. I avoid it at all costs. 

Come to Austin.  Fucking Lance Armstrong.    The cyclists here are CRACKMONKEYS on the sides of the road.  And, we've got laws that dictate you must give the cyclists 6 feet of room within the city of Austin.

Which is why I LOVE it when they cycle their spandex-clad asses out to the sticks where the shoulders are tiny.  I'm not giving you 6 feet jackass.  GTFO!!  It's also fun when we're on the motorcycle; we do crowd them a little bit then just to mess with them.

That all sounds awful.  I'm also so glad I don't live in Portland and missed out on the World Naked Bike Ride...

Jen4948

My UO: I hate "cuteness," "cleverness," "creativity," "originality," "me-ness," "uniqueness," because people post here using those to try to justify having/using bad ideas.

My PP: I hate the way people post here asking for advice and opinions on bad ideas, we tell them, and then they respond, "Thanks, I'm going to do it anyway, it'll be my favorite part of the wedding, it's so cute, my kids will be 'included', my dog will be 'included,'" ad nauseam.

davisse3

SP29 said:

UO: People who wear sweatshirts with shorts. I know, lots of people do it, keep the core warm and the legs feel fine, but I just don't understand it. If it's cold enough to wear a sweater, it's too cold for shorts. 

PP: People who do not merge at road speed. Particularly on the highway. Likewise, people who drive significantly under the speed limit (in clear road conditions), again, particularly on the highway. Since living in AB, it's a regular thing to come driving up behind a vehicle that is going 20km under the speed limit (or trying to merge this slow)- driving that much under the speed limit is dangerous too!!!

People who wear tights/leggings as pants. 

No joke, I was in line behind a woman at Target yesterday wearing very tight, very short workout shorts and a sweatshirt. It took serious restraint to not tell her to put on some damn pants.

PP: Condescending co workers. Yes, please explain to me how this thing that I do every day works. Clearly, having several years of experience with it means I don't know how it works.

MrsLillyG

Uo: I don't think that planning a wedding is stressful or very time consuming. Pp:shopping carts not being returned. Ps. I also think engagement photos are a little too narcissistic. I do like the newborn photos tho!

ETA: an engagement shoot was included in our a package and we still didn't do them.

climbingsingle

MrsLillyG said:

Uo: I don't think that planning a wedding is stressful or very time consuming. Pp:shopping carts not being returned. Ps. I also think engagement photos are a little too narcissistic. I do like the newborn photos tho!

Totally agree on all points! It's totally up to you if you want to have a stress-free event. I also seriously despise people that do not return their shopping carts.  

FutureMrsN3312

bubbles053009 said:

ClimbingBrideNY said:

MrsLillyG said:

Uo: I don't think that planning a wedding is stressful or very time consuming. Pp:shopping carts not being returned. Ps. I also think engagement photos are a little too narcissistic. I do like the newborn photos tho!

Totally agree on all points! It's totally up to you if you want to have a stress-free event. I also seriously despise people that do not return their shopping carts.  

I used to work at a wholesale club and would occasionally go outside to retrieve carts for inside the store. You have no idea how many people would not return their carts even after seeing me, a 5'3" 100 lb girl, trying to wrangle all of these carts to bring inside. It is so annoying.

I will pass this on to FI.  He makes fun of me for always returning my cart.  He says that cart police aren't going to come and get you. LOL

climbingsingle

bubbles053009 said:

FutureMrsN3312 said:

bubbles053009 said:

ClimbingBrideNY said:

MrsLillyG said:

Uo: I don't think that planning a wedding is stressful or very time consuming. Pp:shopping carts not being returned. Ps. I also think engagement photos are a little too narcissistic. I do like the newborn photos tho!

Totally agree on all points! It's totally up to you if you want to have a stress-free event. I also seriously despise people that do not return their shopping carts.  

I used to work at a wholesale club and would occasionally go outside to retrieve carts for inside the store. You have no idea how many people would not return their carts even after seeing me, a 5'3" 100 lb girl, trying to wrangle all of these carts to bring inside. It is so annoying.

I will pass this on to FI.  He makes fun of me for always returning my cart.  He says that cart police aren't going to come and get you. LOL

Please do. The worst were people who were right next to the corral. Like seriously, you can't walk the two fucking feet to put it where it is supposed to go? Those are the same kind of people who would probably come inside and bitch their car got hit by a cart.

ETA: I mean, if you see someone out there who works at the store gathering the carts, the least you could do is at least bring the damn cart over to them.

The carts that are like 10 feet from the corral make NO sense to me. You just spent all that time walking around the store and yet you can't walk 10 more feet to put your cart where it belongs!?!?

I had a cart hit my new car two weeks after getting it. It left a huge scratch in my driver side door. Jerks! 

PolarBearFitz

UO: Cannot stand the garter toss AND especially when it's put on whoever caught the bouquet. So awkward and sometimes just gross.

PP: People who try to cut their fingernails at work or slurp when they are eating at their desk. Nothing like being on a phone call with a client and hearing SLURRRRRRPPPPP in the background. ICK!

lizandmark2014

UO: No toasts or speeches at a wedding. 

PP: People honking for no reason. 

         I am NOT over the line, running a stop sign or red light. I am not giving myself right of way when illegal. Please do not honk. Not even to say "hi".