Cake knife and server set

Re: Cake knife and server set

• jeanna85 member

  

  May 2010 edited December 2011

  yeah its rude to ask someone to buy you something. if you dont get one as a gift at your shower and you really want one, you should buy it yourself.

  

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• [Deleted User] member

  

  May 2010 edited December 2011

  I agree it is rude to ask someone to buy it for you. Depending how far away from your wedding you are, someone may end up getting it for your for a present just because or for a bridal shower. We got engaged last April and this past Christmas people were asking me/us what we wanted. I told FMIL that I would really like to have a flute and serving set, and that is exactly what we got, a together gift, but it was perfect. She was having trouble coming up with ideas for me anyway bc I really didn't need anything specific. If not, you will have to buy it yourself or you could always borrow it from your parents, FI's parents or some other close relative. I wanted ours engraved though, so if you borrow one, you may want to make sure they aren't engraved.
  
  

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• future-mrs member

  

  May 2010 edited December 2011

  Please don't ask anyone to buy you anything.  Wedding party members don't have jobs or duties, it's an honor as a friend/family member of yours.  So treat them that way.  If you want something and don't get it as a gift, you buy it yourself, simple as that.

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• bellamella

  

  May 2010 edited December 2011

  Thanks for all your advice ladies. I think you've got the wrong impression about me asking them to buy it, my future mother in law keeps asking what it is that they can contribute and how they can help and what they can bring, as the wedding is in my hometown and my folks are helping us with so many things already.
  With regards to asking people to buy things for you, isn't that what a gift registry is?
  Anyway, my original question is probably answered - so thanks a lot!!!
  
  

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• caseyandlizzie member

  

  May 2010 edited December 2011

  You can find these pretty inexpensive at Michaels  or Hobby Lobby (buy during a 50% off wedding deal, or with 40% off coupon). I got lucky in that my venue has a set for me to use. I really doubt I will ever use these again, so if I had to buy them I would have been picking them up at Michaels.

  
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• Beachy730 member

  

  May 2010 edited December 2011

  If she is asking you then you can tell her you want them.  I don't know if there is a tradition as to who buys them.  I have heard of people getting them as engagement gifts, shower gifts, buying it themselves, etc.  My mom and I were at Macy's one day and she said she wanted to get them for us, so I picked out a matching serving set and flutes that I really liked and she bought them.  If she brings it up again you can just say "we would really like a serving set and/or toasting flutes for the wedding." 

  

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