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i HAD to kick that b**** out. *UPDATE*

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I just found that 1 of my BM got 2 huge tattoos, 1 on each arm, less than 5 months from my wedding!!! They are very big and very visible. I am not happy about this in any way shape or form. Dont get me wrong, I'm not against tattoos, but I also dont have any visible tats and FH has none. This is my wedding and my wedding pictures that I'm gonna have hanging on my wall for the rest of my life! I asked nicely if she would be willing/able to cover them and she avoided the question al together.She of course got upset that I was upset about her ink, saying that she was the same person, that it was her body and this, that and the other thing. I understood that it was her body, but it's my wedding and I dont want her arms being the 1st thing that you notice when looking at my wedding pics!Could you seriously not wait 5 months to get them?! SHe is also FH's BM's wife, so that adds an extra spice into the mix, even though BM says he's fine with my decsion and that he's still gonna be the BM. What I'm worried about is that she is going to hold a grudge, and of course she is going to be invite to the wedding, so that adds more worry and stress. I know that I did the right thing in my mind, but I'm still a little upset about it.
Has anyone else had to remove a person from their weding party, for any reason? I know that I'm not the first and I wont be the last, but I just need that reassurance(sp)

**UPDATE** So this was a test, all the ladies on Weddingbook saids you knotties were b!tches.  This was NOT my situation--I don't even have a wedding date yet, it was a post I copy/pasted that stirred up some heat on WB and I wanted to see how you ladies would react.  Good to know they weren't lying when they said you all were brutal b!tches.
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    6fsn6fsn member
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    edited December 2011
    I'm going out on a limb and say that the BM isn't the b!tch in this situation.  I'm sure the former BM will be upset for a little while until she realizes you did her a big favor.
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    Your wedding is not the yardstick by which everyone needs to live their life.  She wanted to get tattooed, so she did.  She doesn't have to answer to you, and therefore she isn't the b!tch in this situation. 

    Goes to show how shallow you are that you care more about your precious pictures than having people who are important to you stand up with you.  Then again, if she's JUST the best man's wife and you made her a BM simply out of obligation, then I think the tattoos were just the excuse you pegged your bad behaviour on.
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    Butter CookieButter Cookie member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_kick-b-out?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:77e9bc78-ab23-42c0-acdc-bd1b1b5d7d63Post:757d837f-1cd8-4bc6-9c6b-eace6728bc1c">i HAD to kick that b**** out.</a>:
    [QUOTE]I just found that 1 of my BM got 2 huge tattoos, 1 on each arm, less than 5 months from my wedding!!! They are very big and very visible. I am not happy about this in any way shape or form. Dont get me wrong, I'm not against tattoos, but I also dont have any visible tats and FH has none. This is my wedding and my wedding pictures that I'm gonna have hanging on my wall for the rest of my life! I asked nicely if she would be willing/able to cover them and she avoided the question al together.She of course got upset that I was upset about her ink, saying that she was the same person, that it was her body and this, that and the other thing. I understood that it was her body, but it's my wedding and I dont want her arms being the 1st thing that you notice when looking at my wedding pics!Could you seriously not wait 5 months to get them?! SHe is also FH's BM's wife, so that adds an extra spice into the mix, even though BM says he's fine with my decsion and that he's still gonna be the BM. What I'm worried about is that she is going to hold a grudge, and of course she is going to be invite to the wedding, so that adds more worry and stress. I know that I did the right thing in my mind, but I'm still a little upset about it. Has anyone else had to remove a person from their weding party, for any reason? I know that I'm not the first and I wont be the last, but I just need that reassurance(sp)
    Posted by butterflies51908@hotmail.com[/QUOTE]

    So, when she agreed to be a bridesmaid she agreed not to get tattoos? Was that in the contract you had them sign?

    You seriously are calling this girl a btch for getting tattoos that are visable. Seriously.

    What would you have done if she were say ... disfigured in a car accident? Would you kick her out then, because she doesn't meet the standards you're looking for in a bridesmaid? Or if she lost or gained weight? Or maybe changed her hair color? Or got a tan? or had a pimple?
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    ReeseFoxReeseFox member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_kick-b-out?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:47Discussion:77e9bc78-ab23-42c0-acdc-bd1b1b5d7d63Post:757d837f-1cd8-4bc6-9c6b-eace6728bc1c">i HAD to kick that b**** out.</a>:
    [QUOTE]I just found that 1 of my BM got 2 huge tattoos, 1 on each arm, less than 5 months from my wedding!!! They are very big and very visible. I am not happy about this in any way shape or form. Dont get me wrong, I'm not against tattoos, but I also dont have any visible tats and FH has none. This is my wedding and my wedding pictures that I'm gonna have hanging on my wall for the rest of my life! I asked nicely if she would be willing/able to cover them and she avoided the question al together.She of course got upset that I was upset about her ink, saying that she was the same person, that it was her body and this, that and the other thing. I understood that it was her body, but it's my wedding and I dont want her arms being the 1st thing that you notice when looking at my wedding pics!Could you seriously not wait 5 months to get them?! SHe is also FH's BM's wife, so that adds an extra spice into the mix, even though BM says he's fine with my decsion and that he's still gonna be the BM. What I'm worried about is that she is going to hold a grudge, and of course she is going to be invite to the wedding, so that adds more worry and stress. I know that I did the right thing in my mind, but I'm still a little upset about it. Has anyone else had to remove a person from their weding party, for any reason? I know that I'm not the first and I wont be the last, but I just need that reassurance(sp)
    Posted by butterflies51908@hotmail.com[/QUOTE]

    The only bitch I see in this story is you.
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    butterflies51908butterflies51908
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_kick-b-out?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:77e9bc78-ab23-42c0-acdc-bd1b1b5d7d63Post:8dcdf0fe-0f29-458e-b45c-153e18eb0ba2">Re: i HAD to kick that b**** out.</a>:
    [QUOTE] What would you have done if she were say ... disfigured in a car accident? Would you kick her out then, because she doesn't meet the standards you're looking for in a bridesmaid? Or if she lost or gained weight? Or maybe changed her hair color? Or got a tan? or had a pimple?
    Posted by Butter Cookie[/QUOTE]

    Most of the scenarios you listed are not things that occur by choice.  Tattoos are a choice.
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    duckie1905duckie1905 member
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    Really?  You have got to be joking.

    She deserves a better friend than you.
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    Butter CookieButter Cookie member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_kick-b-out?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:77e9bc78-ab23-42c0-acdc-bd1b1b5d7d63Post:127cb145-d351-4f09-8297-f234547c8fda">Re: i HAD to kick that b**** out.</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: i HAD to kick that b**** out. : [QUOTE. What would you have done if she were say ... disfigured in a car accident? Would you kick her out then, because she doesn't meet the standards you're looking for in a bridesmaid? Or if she lost or gained weight? Or maybe changed her hair color? Or got a tan? or had a pimple? Posted by Butter Cookie[/QUOTE] Most of the scenarios you listed are not things that occur by choice.  Tattoos are a choice.
    Posted by butterflies51908@hotmail.com[/QUOTE]


    So, weight gain or loss, hair changes, and tans are not by choice. Okay.

    She didn't agree to be stagnant until after your wedding. If you're so shallow that her tattoos are enough for you to both call her a btch AND kick her out of your wedding you're an ignorant person.

    And your poor fiance is going to have to explain to his best man for the rest of his life why he married such a shallow person.
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    HookaPantsHookaPants
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_kick-b-out?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:47Discussion:77e9bc78-ab23-42c0-acdc-bd1b1b5d7d63Post:757d837f-1cd8-4bc6-9c6b-eace6728bc1c">i HAD to kick that b**** out. *UPDATE*</a>:
    [QUOTE] **UPDATE** So this was a test, all the ladies on Weddingbook saids you knotties were b!tches.  This was NOT my situation--I don't even have a wedding date yet, it was a post I copy/pasted that stirred up some heat on WB and I wanted to see how you ladies would react.  Good to know they weren't lying when they said you all were brutal b!tches.
    Posted by butterflies51908@hotmail.com[/QUOTE]

    So, you heard women on another forum were 'bitches', and used a fake, inflammatory post to 'stir up heat' to prove your point? Mkay. And people say we have too much time on our hands.
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    kmckenzie89kmckenzie89 member
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    I wouldn't say people on this forum are "b!tches" at all.  In fact, I find them to be extremely helpful, kind, and brutally honest when they need to be.
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    nicoleg1982nicoleg1982 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_kick-b-out?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:47Discussion:77e9bc78-ab23-42c0-acdc-bd1b1b5d7d63Post:757d837f-1cd8-4bc6-9c6b-eace6728bc1c">i HAD to kick that b**** out. *UPDATE*</a>:
    [QUOTE]I just found that 1 of my BM got 2 huge tattoos, 1 on each arm, less than 5 months from my wedding!!! They are very big and very visible. I am not happy about this in any way shape or form. Dont get me wrong, I'm not against tattoos, but I also dont have any visible tats and FH has none. This is my wedding and my wedding pictures that I'm gonna have hanging on my wall for the rest of my life! I asked nicely if she would be willing/able to cover them and she avoided the question al together.She of course got upset that I was upset about her ink, saying that she was the same person, that it was her body and this, that and the other thing. I understood that it was her body, but it's my wedding and I dont want her arms being the 1st thing that you notice when looking at my wedding pics!Could you seriously not wait 5 months to get them?! SHe is also FH's BM's wife, so that adds an extra spice into the mix, even though BM says he's fine with my decsion and that he's still gonna be the BM. What I'm worried about is that she is going to hold a grudge, and of course she is going to be invite to the wedding, so that adds more worry and stress. I know that I did the right thing in my mind, but I'm still a little upset about it. Has anyone else had to remove a person from their weding party, for any reason? I know that I'm not the first and I wont be the last, but I just need that reassurance(sp) **UPDATE** So this was a test, all the ladies on Weddingbook saids you knotties were b!tches.  This was NOT my situation--I don't even have a wedding date yet, it was a post I copy/pasted that stirred up some heat on WB and I wanted to see how you ladies would react.  Good to know they weren't lying when they said you all were brutal b!tches.
    Posted by butterflies51908@hotmail.com[/QUOTE]

    The update really takes the cake. 
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    TheDuckisTheDuckis member
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    So how did the ladies on weddingbook react to this?
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_kick-b-out?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:77e9bc78-ab23-42c0-acdc-bd1b1b5d7d63Post:625b5ca7-7ebd-4958-9704-7bbc99ede624">Re: i HAD to kick that b**** out. *UPDATE*</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to i HAD to kick that b**** out. *UPDATE* : So, you heard women on another forum were 'bitches', and used a fake, inflammatory post to 'stir up heat' to prove your point? Mkay. And people say we have too much time on our hands.
    Posted by HookaPants[/QUOTE]

    But don't you know that valuing friendships over the appearance of wedding pictures = BI!TCHES

    As does thinking that maybe, just maybe, the role of Bridesmaid is more about the relationship of the BM w/ the bride than it is about the pretty dress and what great-aunt bertha thinks.

    Because, my god, friendships are fleeting but wedding photos are FOREVER!
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    JennaV26JennaV26
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    We may be bitches but you're a hypocrite.
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    DG1DG1 member
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    I love how, of the 2 opinions on 2 different boards, this one is the "wrong" one where we're "bitches."  I would love to know what the other board said, because if they said it was OK to kick someone out because they got tattoos five months before the wedding, I still say they are the bitches.

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    psichickpsichick
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    yea it's pretty clear who the bitch in this thread really is
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    baconsmombaconsmom member
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    Seriously, y'all, GOLD MINE. I don't know who cashed in their awesome karma, but keep it coming. 

    I'm pretty sure I could come up with a thousand words on why WE'RE the bitches, but I won't bore anyone. I'll just be content knowing that I'm secure up here on this very, very high horse of mine. View's nice, too. 
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    [Deleted User][Deleted User]
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    Well, I came in late to this and missed the thread before the update. All I can say is that OP, you're pathetic. I mean, seriously, posting a fake thread you know will cause the exact comments you want just so you can call everyone here a bitch? You have way too much time on your hands and think far too highly of yourself.

    Something tells me you're going to be the kind of bride from the "fake" post.

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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_kick-b-out?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:77e9bc78-ab23-42c0-acdc-bd1b1b5d7d63Post:827f96bf-f914-4097-9997-73f48a41f1f6">Re: i HAD to kick that b**** out. *UPDATE*</a>:
    [QUOTE]I wouldn't say people on this forum are "b!tches" at all.  In fact, I find them to be <strong>extremely helpful, kind, and <em><u>brutally honest</u></em> </strong>when they need to be.
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     finally, someone gets it.
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    Paulo's Menina BelaPaulo's Menina Bela member
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    Congrats OP you successfully proved you are a self-centered bitch and people are merely props and servants for your pretty princess day.
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    HisCBHisCB
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    i too am curious about what the other site members commented about. because if they said it was ok, i dont want to join the other site.
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    AugustPenguinAugustPenguin
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    Funny thing about them saying the girls here are b!tches, wedding book is actually part of the knot...it's an app on facebook. Hope this link works

    http://apps.facebook.com/wedsnap_wedding/forums/topic/61486/had-to-kick-her-out/?_fb_fromhash=db32f2afbc4151cda5a5cf4ae3b94464








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    baconsmombaconsmom member
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    How did they get to 11 pages if there was "no drama" like the end posts claim? 

    Eleven. Pages. Christ. And yes, people were all, "She should step down if she won't cover up!" Those who disagreed couched it in wimpy, apologetic language. 

    I don't apologize when I'm actually wrong. Why the fck would I do so when I know I'm right? Everyone over there needs to grow either a brain or some balls. Some of them both. 
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    crushgirliecrushgirlie member
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    Sorry I'm new so I'm just reading random posts, but really! You did this to prove what you have nothing better to do with your time? Read a book! This just made you look stupid and petty. It's a message board not the flipping UN get a grip!
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    leaynleayn member
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    What kind of loser even does something like this?  Get a life!
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    The best thing of that lovely site is their lack of security. Simply click someones name and it takes you to their full name and sometimes their FB profile. Lovely.

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    My favorite quote:  "You say I am a bitch like it's a bad thing".  ;)

    EDIT: Here is another one that I love:  "Some call it bitching, I call it motivational speaking".
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    psichickpsichick
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    i only got through three pages of that crap but from what i read they all agreed that she was being a bitch for kicking her out. so....yea i don't get it. 

    i sucked it up and read the whole thing. i liked at the end the moderator said that people can have opinions but they are not allowed to criticize others. really? how does that work. if you're doing something rude and stupid i would hope that someone would criticize the hell out of you. 
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    LindsMullinixLindsMullinix member
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    lol I love that while joining the knot to post her "fake post" she used her email address as her username...
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    L-BrideL-Bride member
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    Well, that was weird. 
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    ChanelShadesChanelShades
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    I was about to attack you. This post was just stupid. Seriously. I believe this situation really occurred. I just don't believe you took all this time out to conjur up a fake post. I think it would be absurd to ask someone to hold off getting a tattoo for YOUR wedding. You are just plain idiotic to think someone would. To find out that you supposedly "faked" the post just points to the fact that the only person that is a "biotch" is YOU. Go back to the other board if they are "more friendly" than the knot. Those girls are crazy if they condoned your behavior in this situation. 
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