So FI's mom had a series of strokes last summer that she has made an amazing recovery from, but have left her little bit limited. She had to move in with FI's twin sister in Albuquerque. She refuses to fly in for the wedding, which is fine, but we have struggled finding a solution to getting her, his sister, and FI's 2 sons out here. We looked at trains, but it would cost more one way than plane tickets would. So now, we've decided that the best solution is for them to rent a van and drive out, we would pay for the rental and gas for them. His boys will stay with us once they are here and his sister and mom will stay in a hotel. His sister wants FI to fly out there and drive here with them, but is fine with driving home by herself at the end of the trip. I don't like the idea of him flying out three days before the wedding then driving cross country...with the schedule they are looking at, they would probably get here around midnight before our 11 am rehearsal, and I know FI would do the bulk of the driving so he would be exhausted. He keeps telling me that its a "twin thing" and I can't understand and that she wants to hang out with him for a couple of days. Neat. I thought that that was the reason that we weren't taking a honeymoon- so that we could hang out with all of the family that will be in town after the wedding. This way, all of the last minute details are going to completely fall on my shoulders, not to mention the worry about him travelling. His mom, out of nowhere, called one of his nearby cousins and invited her to come out with them and implied that FI & I would pay for their hotel as well. Cousin called FI and said that she and her husband would be willing to drive out with his sister, which would be great because then they could share the driving responsibilities. We were talking it over today, when he told me that they were expecting us to pay for their hotel room as well. I don't mind paying for his sister and mom, because that is the price to have them there. He isn't that close to his cousin, but now she's trying to guilt him into paying for their hotel, and his mom can't understand why it was wrong for her to tell them that we would have no problem paying for it. We have a lot of family members that we would like to have there, but that we understand that travel and accomodations add up and aren't in everyone's budget; I don't feel like its fair that we would pay for his cousin and not other people. Its pretty much a lose-lose situation, I look selfish for putting my foot down about him leaving right before the wedding and he feels bad about letting his sister down and feels guilty for not helping his cousin out. Frustrated!