My mom offered to help my maid of honor plan and pay for my bridal shower. Mom was really excited about contributing and frankly, I was glad to know she'd be involved. I thought my mom might be able to neutralize some of my MOH's ideas that don't quite sit well with me (ex - a lingerie shower). However, when I talked to my MOH about including my mom in the planning process, she retorted with, "If you don't trust my judgment, you can turn total control over to your mom." I was kind of stunned and agreed to talk to my mom about maybe backing off. I spoke with my mom, who was hurt, and the more I think about it, the more it bothers me. I don't want my MOH to feel like her role is being usurped, but I don't think it's an unreasonable for her to collaborate with my mom. What do you ladies think?