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Two MOH's?

peeweea213peeweea213 member
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I have two sisters. One of them already knows that she is the MOH. The other is married; can I have her be the Matron of Honor? She's quite older then me so I was originally going to have her do a reading or sing but I feel as my sister, I should ask her to do more. Or, should I just ask her how she would like to participate?! Thanks!
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  • dees14dees14 member
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    edited December 2011
    I was a bridesmaid in a wedding last year where there were two matrons of honor (no maids of honor). Didn't seem weird to me.
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  • peeweea213peeweea213 member
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    edited December 2011
    Were there two Best Men? Do you have to have two Best Men if you have two MOH? 
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  • AutumnFairAutumnFair member
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    edited December 2011
    I've been in two weddings as one of the two MOH. One had 2 BM, the other had 1 BM. Nothing seemed odd, the one with 1 BM, I walked down with a groomsmen but signed the marriage license. The other was closer to the bride and walked with the BM. Worked out just fine on both parts.
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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
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    edited December 2011
    I think it is fine. Just make sure you write it in the program that way.
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  • CanadianGurlCanadianGurl member
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    edited December 2011
    I was asked to be a matron in a wedding (where there was already a maid of honor). If you're going to have her help with something then sure, have 2, but if it's just a title and you're not that close I wouldn't, just have her do a reading or something. When I was asked, not to sound bad about it but I felt like it was only because she felt obligated and her MOH did everything. It would have been better to be a just a bridesmaid or do a reading, or just be a guest.
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  • Anabeth420Anabeth420
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    edited December 2011
    My two sisters are my MOH's and my soon to be SIL is my maid of honor. My DF only has one BM, his brother, and one GM, my brother. Everyone I've discussed it with thinks it was a great idea and that it was nice to include all the siblings. It's what you feel comfortable with though, that's most important.
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  • lilcasserslilcassers member
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    edited December 2011
    There are no rules anymore!! And you don't have to have 2 best men for 2 MOH. All they are doing is walking down together... it really is no big deal!!

    I have 3 friends who each have 2 sisters and they all had their sisters as MOH
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  • OrionvixenOrionvixen member
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    edited December 2011

    I have two sisters and a best friend in the wedding. The rest of the bridal part is my niece and his sister.  I'm picking my one sister to be the matron of honor (married) and my friend to be my MOH and I'm splitting the duties between the two of them.  My other sister is cool with just being in the wedding and understands that I'm closer to those two then I am her. 

    We are only having one best man though; which everyone on his side is cool with that. 

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  • uneek1323uneek1323 member
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    I agree with lilcassers. No rules! I have one maid of honor and one matron of honor. FI has one best man. No bridesmaids or groomsmen. We wanted to keep it simple and only have family standing up there with us. We also wanted to avoid the friends drama that can sometimes occur. The best man will escort both maid and matron of honor.

    IMO, don't exclude your sister just because she is married. If you want her to stand up with you and your FI then go for it!

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  • lalap69lalap69 member
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    You can definitely have 2 MOH.  My only issue would be if you're only having 3 attendants total - you don't want to have 2 MOH and 1 BM because it might appear mean to the BM.  Otherwise, I don't see an issue.
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  • cch923cch923
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    edited December 2011
    I was one of two maids of honors for a good friend and it worked out fine.  There was only one best man.
    In my wedding I have two maids of honors (one is married so technically matron but same thing right) and my fiance only has one best man.  The two maids are splitting the duties - one in charge of bach and one in charge of shower.  They choose how they wanted to split it.

    I think this day and age there are no more 'rules'.  If other people don't like it - who cares, it isn't their wedding :)

    Oh, and I have one bridesmaid - but I don't think it's rude to have her be the only bridesmaid.  And I'm 100% sure she has no problem with it either.
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  • J. AmbreJ. Ambre member
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    edited December 2011
    I've been to several weddings where there were two MOH. As long as there won't be any jealousy issues (you're under enough stress as it is, I'm sure), I say go for it!
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