I have 2 different people wanting to throw showers for me. And one is wanting a huge party at a clubhouse for mine and his friends. But, the wedding is just immediate family because we both have large families, and we're on a budget. Plus, I just really didn't want a huge wedding. The problem is who do I invite to the showers? I have many family friends and co-workers that I would love to come, but I hate to invite someone to a shower and not the wedding. But maybe because it is only immediate family, everyone will understand? I just really don't want to be the one who says "hey... buy me a gift but you're not special enough to come to the wedding"
Any suggestions on how to handle this??