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The Ceremonial Kiss~

Aw, the kiss after your beautiful "I Do`s," It is ending the ceremony and showing the world your couple identity! Plus it is an amazing start to how every kiss will yearn to live up to that kiss for years to come. 

/endsappyloveharps-

My fiance' and I have been going back and forth with the idea of our ceremony kiss, and yes it is a big deal to us. 
I want a passionate, unique to us kind of kiss without it being cheesy. 
Several of my married friends all did....the....the...DIP! I cringe everytime I see those pictures where there is some huge, dramatic dip. 
WE GET IT! YOU'VE SEEN ONE TOO MANY DISNEY MOVIES! (I always shout to myself when I see those pics)

I was thinking we could do the Morticia and Adam Gomez kiss where my fiance' will kiss up my arm and I'll play coy (sp?) I thought that would give a great laugh to everyone, especially since they only ever kissed but once in the movies I was thinking once he reaches up my arm we would actually kiss. 

However, my fiance' says that is cheesy, yet he has no ideas as to what he wants to do either other then, "Why don't we just kiss like we normally do?"  boo~ 

So I am curious, what have you ladies done or are thinking of doing for your wedding kisses? Or if you have heard any funny stories of wedding kisses that you'd like to share. I just need to get some ideas going! 
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  • I'm with your fiance on this one. 
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  • I just wished we had more ideas.
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  • We just did a "regular old kiss." It was still special to us because it was our first kiss as a married couple.


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  • never thought about the kiss in this perspective... if it were us for example (just as an idea) i think have his bestman (provided its not the brother who doesnt care for me) or the officiant say to my FI 'are you gonna kiss her or not' simply because when we first started dating i was the shy usually didnt intiate but rather let guys come to me, and he was the .... um lets just say well versed in the land of dating one. but it took me pushing and pushing and pushing to get him to open up because he was so nervous around me for the first month that we knew each other.... total role reversal for us but it worked out obviously.

    but anyways that would be my idea think of something unique to you as a couple even if its a bit cheesy. if your an out of the norm couple nothing is better than expect the unexpected! IMO ofcourse! good Luck
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  • I've always thought it would be a real hoot to just PUNCH your new spouse in the face instead of the kiss.   It'll have the audience (and the groom!) in stitches. 
  • Summer2011Bride - That is very sweet that you two were able to enjoy your kiss, I am glad for you two.

    bgrjourney - I like that idea very much, I will talk with my officiant.

    NOLAbridealmost - Yeeeeaaaaah....POW! Right in the kisser. What better way to show love then to leave a mark and burning sensation on my fiance's face. /sarcasm.
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    [QUOTE]I'm with your fiance on this one. 
    Posted by Girlie1030[/QUOTE]

    Me, too.  We just kissed ... first married kiss, so it was wonderfully romantic.  Ahhh ...
  • Hm, thank you ladies for your posts. 
    It has given me a lot to think about. 

    This is just something I am going to have to work on with my fiance and my officiant and hopefully some great ideas will come to us. 
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    [QUOTE]Honestly, I think the Morticia kiss would be WAY more cheesy than the dip which has been around longer than Disney. If the kiss is that important, I'd rather it be meaningful and REAL rather than some silly copy off a movie that doesn't have any relation to you guys.
    Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]

    I agree.  I'm not a fan of orchestrated moves just for show for any part of the wedding.  The choreographed dances with the wedding party, the seemingly random, but well planned "objections" during the ceremony, and things like this.   I think just kissing is special enough. You aren't putting on a play.
  • I - um - can't remember our kiss from our ceremony?  It was all a blur.

    Believe me, we've kissed more passionately in our lives than that one in front of our parents.
  • As long as fi doesn't grope me in front of my parents I'm pretty happy with any old kiss. Not sure why it needs to be MORE special, it already is!
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  • I really don't like it when a Bridge and Groom treat their wedding like a theater production.  It's a REAL life event, not a play, or a movie, or a photo shoot.  We did a REAL kiss, like we normally do.  We didn't think about it ahead of time, or plan anything, or practice.  We just kissed each other.  
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  • I don't really think you should plan the kiss. I can guarantee you'll be so caught up in the moment it woun't go as planned. Let it be spontaneous.
     
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  • The kissing up the arm thing sounds cheesy, it's a wedding, not a show.  Your guests are watching you become husband and wife, and kiss for the first time as a married couple.  Isn't that special/entertaining enough? I would roll my eyes hard at anything trying to make that moment more 'entertaining'. 
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    [QUOTE]Aw, the kiss after your beautiful "I Do`s," It is ending the ceremony and showing the world your couple identity! Plus it is an amazing start to how every kiss will yearn to live up to that kiss for years to come.  /endsappyloveharps- My fiance' and I have been going back and forth with the idea of our ceremony kiss, and yes it is a big deal to us.  I want a passionate, unique to us kind of kiss without it being cheesy.  Several of my married friends all did....the....the...DIP! I cringe everytime I see those pictures where there is some huge, dramatic dip.  WE GET IT! YOU'VE SEEN ONE TOO MANY DISNEY MOVIES! (I always shout to myself when I see those pics) I was thinking we could do the Morticia and Adam Gomez kiss where my fiance' will kiss up my arm and I'll play coy (sp?) I thought that would give a great laugh to everyone, especially since they only ever kissed but once in the movies I was thinking once he reaches up my arm we would actually kiss.  However, my fiance' says that is cheesy, yet he has no ideas as to what he wants to do either other then, "Why don't we just kiss like we normally do?"  boo~  So I am curious, what have you ladies done or are thinking of doing for your wedding kisses? Or if you have heard any funny stories of wedding kisses that you'd like to share. I just need to get some ideas going! 
    Posted by JoJoDahling[/QUOTE]

    I love the idea of the Gomez/Morticia kiss, but not during the ceremony. Why not do it before or after your first dance or something like that?
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  • I think you'll be too nervous to plan a kiss. 

    We've only mentioned the kiss thing as a joke, a threat to be passionate about it in a taboo area.  But Lord knows that is not happening, I'll barely be able to blink, let alone make it "special".  to be honest I'll probably not even realize its happening, lol. 
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  • Stage & Joy - church tongue, not porn tongue right?  (Name that movie).  :)
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    [QUOTE]Wedding Singer?
    Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]

    <div>Ding ding ding!</div><div>
    </div><div>H kissed me on the forehead when the pastor told us we could kiss.  Everyone giggled, and then we kissed for real.  I just remember that our discussions were about it not being inappropriate and in trying not to make anyone uncomfortable, we made our kiss ridiculously short.  It wasn't planned or conscious, it just happened, probably because, as everyone has pointed out, a shitton of people were staring at us.</div><div>
    </div><div>The most recent wedding I was involved in, we did something really silly.  The bride and groom are really into Disney, so when they kissed we played the chorus of "Kiss The Girl."  It was pretty cute.</div><div>
    </div><div>But, both of those examples are things that were meaningful of the couple and exemplified the personalities of the bride and groom.</div>
  • Agree with pps, a choreographed kiss is going to seem cheesy no matter what you do.  Just kiss eachother genuinely.  Whether its longer and more passionate or just a quick peck, do what feels natural for you at the time.  Granted, shoving tongues down eachother's throats wouldn't be terribly classy either, so don't go down that end of the spectrum.  Trying to think up ideas for a unique and passionate kiss kind of defeats the point...its not special to either of you if its some random idea you've come up with that isn't something you normally do.  The way you kiss eachother everyday IS the kiss that is unique to the two of you. If you really want to do something special and passionate, try and remember the most memorable kiss the two of you have had thus far.  Though like the others have mentioned, chances are that kiss is one to save for a private moment.  And honestly, as far as my experience goes, gimicky planned kisses end up being pretty cringeworthy for the guests. 
  • We honestly will just do what happens that day. I think the more you plan it out, the more not real it'll be. Just do something that's natural to you and it'll be special.
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  • I have also wondered "how" we will kiss, but I'm not stressing over it.  We don't kiss in front of other people (neither of us grew up in particularly affectionate homes) so this will already be weird for us! 

    I saw this picture on pinterest that I'd love to do, but know we won't.
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  • I told DH I didn't want a big sloppy kiss, so he just gave me a quick peck on the lips instead.  Everyone was laughing because it was so quick they missed it.  If I were to do it again, I'd just have the officiant say a prayer & then pronounce us, without the kiss.  Kissing is a private thing anyway, IMO.  I never watch the kiss when I attend a wedding ceremony because it makes me uncomfortable to watch!
  • I've been pretty nervous about "the kiss" up until last night! My fiance is not the PDA type, so I was thinking it'd be a lame peck and I'd be standing up there disappointment all over my face. Haha. Well, last night we got our engagement pictures taken and they made us kiss for the pictures. He was all over me and I was holding back!!! Turns out I was the shy one when it came to this. Who knew!!! Sorry this was totally off point, but I agree with the PP's, let it happen naturally. Who knows, maybe your new husband will sweep you off your feet with the best kiss he's ever planted on you.. You're going to miss the spontaneity of the kiss, which is what makes it fantastic! But, if you feel this must be planned out, more power to you! :)

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  • The advice from the Wedding Singer Movie - church tongue, not porn tongue.  Perfect level of hotness and long enough for a picture to be taken.  Of course, everyone is a little different so do what feels right to you.  I would not put on a show with him kissing you up the arm - this kiss is for the 2 of you sealing the deal and becoming husband and wife.  Good luck!  I'm sure this is all easier said then done.

  • I think when the time comes, we will know what to do. My normal way of kissing is sticking my arms around his waist, his arms around me and then hug and kiss at the same time. So why change that? Maybe it will be a little too long and I don't know if we will get any tongue n ;) But if we do, well, it's our kiss right? And I actually don't think you should rehearse something like that. Just be who you are.... He is marrying you, not morticia, right? For some pictures or a videao, why not? Great idea!!!
  • I think you'll be so excited about kissing your new husband for the first time that any planned choreography will be completely forgotten about. One tip our celebrant gave us is to kiss for 10 seconds, so everyone has plenty of time to catch it for the photos. We tried that and it seems super long for a public kiss, so we'll aim for 5 seconds!
  • At my brothers wedding, after the kiss all the groomsmen pulled a piece of paper out of there tux pockets, with numbers on them (1-10) rating the kiss. The audience loved it, and the bride was really surprised. You could do a role reversal on that, and have the bridesmaids do it. :)
  • Why not give full reign to your fiance? It will be genuine and in the moment, and cute for you not to know what's coming. Plus there's nothing more romantic and unique these days, sadly than a man initiating.
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    [QUOTE]At my brothers wedding, after the kiss all the groomsmen pulled a piece of paper out of there tux pockets, with numbers on them (1-10) rating the kiss. The audience loved it, and the bride was really surprised. You could do a role reversal on that, and have the bridesmaids do it. :)
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    </div><div>I wish I could "like" this post. Totally adorable!</div>
  • Ok, so I'm a total weirdo.  I have a huge issue with kissing in public.  My fiance and I have dated for 6 years and have never kissed in front of either of our parents, nor have we done it in front of most of our friends.  The night he proposed our "engaged" kiss was behind a dinner napkin.

    Anyhow, my fiance and I (as weird as it is) will either HIGH FIVE instead of kissing or
    our MOH and BM will hold up a "censored" bar when we kiss. 

    I know I'm an odd-ball, but whatcha gonna do about it?!

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